It's been a stressful week... They are messing with my hours at work so I have to go back full time, find a sitter I can afford plus my baby shower is this weekend and Daniel's parents will be here... so gotta prepare. Plus, Tyler is trying to bust through my stomach and I don't know if I can do this for three more months! Okay, I'm a big baby. But on TOP of all of that, Madison's mom (who is Daniels baby mama) Lacy is starting HELL about this baby being born. So I'm going to give details and then the theory of why she is doing what she is doing, any feedback welcome...
When we told her I was pregnant she was really cool with it. And me and her do not have a bad relationship. She knows I'm a part of Madison's life and she is trying to be cordial. She does these little things to try to make me jealous, but it's really petty and I just ignore it. I will bs with her like as if we were friends (never ever will be, but she is my step-daughters MOM and I wanna keep it nice) but yeah. So anyways, all cool with baby being born. She found out when I was 4 1/2-5 months. I'm now six. So we find the baby is a boy. And that's she starts to get nasty...
She will tell Daniel what he should and shouldn't be doing once the baby is born (i.e. He should change his hours at work because he won't want to be coming home late with another baby in the house). This really irritates me but fine. Be concerned. He is looking for a BETTER job so I can quit and be home with Tyler for his first year. I think that's important to both me and Daniel. But why is it importatnt to Lacy?
Then she will tell Daniel that Madison is going to have to fight for Daniel's attention with a new baby and he won't have time for her. Hardly the case. I mean if you think about it logically, we have Maddy on the weekends. And not even every weekend. Only if Lacy has no plans for Madison. So it equals out to every other weekend, if we are lucky. So with Madison not being here every day, and very little actually, all attention will be on her. Which I have NO issue with. That is his baby girl. He loves her, I get that. I told Daniel if anything, it was going to be the other way around, Tyler will be fighting for attention from him, not Maddy. He was just like, "No one is going to be fighting for my attention. I love my daughter just as much as I love my son. I can do things with both at the same time."
Then when Daniel picked Madison up Saturday at Lacy's house (I was not there) she asked Daniel, "What's your NEW baby's name going to be?"
"Tyler."
"Oh. Middle name?"
"Daniel."
"Oh." insert dissapointed look here, and then changing of the subject.
Well, why ask if you don't want to know? Then she came to pick Madison up today and I tried saying hi and making conversation and she flat out fucking IGNORED me. I was like, seriously? What the hell, lady? What else are you going to have to say about this pregnancy? I just told Daniel that I swore to GOD if she treated Tyler like shit then I was going to go crazy bitch on her ass. I can tell this is going to get worse.
So I've been trying to figure out why she is acting this way. I at first figured it was jealousy... but I think it's more than that. First off, every daddy wants a boy. I gave him that. I also named him after his dad. Daniel would tell her when she was pregnant that if the baby were a boy this were his plans and blah blah blah. But he has had different plans for Madison. So what's the issue? Every daddy needs a daddy's girl, too. That's something you gave him that I didn't. Or maybe she wanted Maddy to be a girl. I dunno.
But then another thing I realized is that she was the one with a baby with Daniel. She had that Baby Mama footing in his life. I was just a girlfriend. I could have come and gone. She was going to always be there. Buit not now... now I am another baby mama. I will be here forever too. I have that same thinking with my ex husband and his girlfriend. I have a baby with him. I will be here forever. I'm "higher" than you. As much as I hate my ex and want him out of my life, thats just the way it is. Maybe a natural way of thinking? But if my ex had another baby with someone I wouldn't be HURT. Or mean to the other woman because of it, I would just be whatever. It wouldn't matter so much to me. So why is she SO UPSET?!? I have no clue.
I also think she still loves him. I know she does... I can tell. Maybe she feels this baby is a "replacement"? Thoughts? Anyone?
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