Wow! That's all I can say about your description of that. I don't think I would have been able to make it through it.
Should a child still be spanked even if they know what they did was wrong? It depends. If they did BECAUSE they knew it was wrong, certainly. If they did it, knowing it was wrong, but not BECAUSE they knew it was wrong, it depends on what the problem was (I don't know if I have said this before in this thread, but I don't believe every wrong act is punishable by a spanking). If they did it, realized afterwards it was wrong, and apologized for it (and are sincere about the apology), they should absolutely NOT be spanked. At that point, a different punishment should be used.
If the child is crying before the spanking because they know they are getting a spanking (and not necessarily because they are truly sorry for what they did), though, I can't honestly say how I feel about that because it never happened with my child. It all depends on the reason behind the tears, I guess. Knowing what you did wrong and being sorry for it are two different things (and to be quite honest, sometimes when a child cries because they know they are going to be spanked it's only because they don't want to be spanked, NOT because they are sorry for what they did). I'm not saying this particular child wasn't sorry, I'm just saying that just because she was crying doesn't mean she shouldn't have been spanked. It depends on the circumstances. Though I'm not sure I could carry out a spanking on my already crying child. It's heartbreaking enough to spank, it's heartbreaking enough to have my child crying. To have a child crying before being spanked...gosh, I don't know if I could do it. (And thank God I never had to!)
I think if spanking is outlawed, it will be because far too many who do utilize it don't understand how to properly utilize it and border too closely to abuse rather than discipline. Because that IS the case, I won't be upset about it being outlawed. The children do need to be protected. I don't believe spanking itself is the problem, though, it's the lack of self control and knowledge on HOW to do it and WHEN to stop that is the problem. A problem, unfortunately, far too many parents have.