I'd just like to add my own two cents. This is all is down to perception as mentioned before. It is perceived by Westerners that Arab women are forced into roles that give them no rights what so ever; that women are forced to take the hajab, be 'pure' and that men are allowed to do what they want, sleeping with multiple women etc. And while I won't argue that there are extremists out there that push for such 'barriers' the majority of women within an Arab family are treated as 'jewels'. They are the soul of the home and family, treated with respect and they are not married off to just anyone. As Giggle mentioned, any potential husbands are thoroughly researched before given approval. The family does want what is best for the woman. The family and the husband do want the woman to get an education, they want the woman to be 'strong' so this ignorance that it is all down so that the woman can't 'rate' her husband is completely wrong.
In regards to the article, while I would agree that it is sad that women feel like they have to to go to these extremes, at the same time, we can not judge. We are not in this position, and maybe never will, and if the women feel that this is necessary, then they feel it is necessary. I feel as though the author of this story twisted it, proof by that line. While it is completely unfair that there is no physical way to prove if a man is no longer a 'virgin' (for lack of a better word), and it is true that sometimes women don't bleed after their first time (I didn't), this one-sided view makes it harder to breach a gap between the two different realms of ideas. It's unfortunate that when an article is published on the Arab world, it is either over the more 'stricter' side, twists on 'ideal's' and so forth, rather than actually taking a honest view of it.