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Toddlers going to loved ones Funerals
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7 Oct 2009, 04:05
j'dore hailey&ryan
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that makes me really sad.. and even to imagen hearing that is making me cry.. I lost my grandpa a year ago and it hurts soo bad till this day.. it breaks my heart! :'''( I'm so emo!!
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7 Oct 2009, 04:05
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Thank you everyone for the advice :)
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7 Oct 2009, 04:17
*Forever Changing*
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I am expecting a death in the next year and my children will be going, it will be their uncle and they need to say good bye to him, besides, holding one of my babies will help me keep myself together.
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7 Oct 2009, 11:36
Let It Be
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I don't like how, as a society, we try to 'hide' children from death. Like someone said, it's a natural part of life. When I was ELEVEN my grandmother died, and my parents didn't allow me to attend the 'funeral' (which was just spreading her ashes at her favorite location), and to this day it still bothers me that they didn't let me go. I mean I was a child, but I was certainly old enough to understand what was going on and I think I deserved to say goodbye to her in that way, too. Death is never easy but I think it can be explained, even to toddlers, in an age appropriate way.
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7 Oct 2009, 13:07
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And this is why children should have pets. When pets oass they experience death and there are some things we cant protect our children from. I took my boys to my grandfathers funeral when they would have been 2,5 and 7. The older two walked beside the pallbearers very proudly.
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7 Oct 2009, 16:39
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I took my daughter to my surrogate father's funeral. He died on her 4th birthday and was the only grandfather she knew. She didn't fully understand and thought he was just sleeping, but I think she had every right to be there to say her goodbyes like the rest of the family. My bio-dad used to tell me he didn't let me go to my mothers funeral because he felt I was too young, but I feel like I was cheated out of the chance to say my own goodbyes and I would never do that to anyone, child or not.
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7 Oct 2009, 19:09
Ariel ♥
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I think you did the right thing :)
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7 Oct 2009, 17:21
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I don't see any reason why they shouldn't go. If anything it might help them to understand.
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7 Oct 2009, 22:09
Acid Fairy
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I think it depends on the child. Funerals are horrible and I'd rather not go to them even as an adult. For some people it's closure, but that doesn't seem to work for me. Everyone's different!
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8 Oct 2009, 05:15
an empty frame.
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I think it depends on the child and how sensitive s/he is to the emotions of others. But other than that I think it's perfectly appropriate for a toddler to go. I don't think allowing them to view the body is a good idea, however, but yeah its the parents' decision. Should probably take some activities for the kid to do and allow them to sit at the back and colour in or something, though.
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8 Oct 2009, 12:15
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My grandma died in January and I explained to my daughters what had happened and stuff. I didn't take them to the funeral, but that was because I knew how upset I would be and they wouldn't have liked seeing it. They had already been to see her and said goodbye the day before she died because the doctors had told us all to go and see her.
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