Last week I was watching the Oprah Winfrey Show. It was a salute to moms. I was watching and laughing my ass off at some of these comments and completely agreeing with others. So I went online and got some quotes. I have just copy and pasted some of the quotes to give you an example of what was discussed.
Oprah show quotes begins!!!
Oprah is saluting moms everywhere and letting them know they have support. "We hear from mothers all the time who say they feel alone. They feel overwhelmed; they feel sometimes inadequate. And you say you're afraid to admit the truth for fear of being judged," Oprah says. "So today we're creating a judgment-free zone, a sisterhood of motherhood where anything goes."
Bodily fluids are a point of contention for the mothers across the board. Vicki Glembocki, a mom of two, says she had a "pee incident" recently during a seven-hour drive with her kids. "I looked in the back, and the kids were sleeping, which was literally a miracle from God, but the problem was I had to pee," she says. "So I'm thinking, 'If I stop at a rest area, they're totally going to wake up, and I do not want them to wake up.' So I reach into the diaper bag, I pulled out a diaper and I peed into it."
Dee-Dee Jackson, a mother of five, has her own diaper confession. After running out of diapers in the middle of the night, she says she had to make her own. "What we had to do was use a maxi pad until the next morning," she says. "It worked so well, we took our time the next day to get diapers."
Vicki says the most surprising thing about motherhood was that she didn't feel maternal right away. "I swore to God that the moment my daughter issued forth from my loins that … my life would finally be complete and I would finally know my purpose. It was not like that," she says. "I couldn't get her to sleep. I couldn't get her to stop crying. I completely believed that I was the only woman in the history of time who did not have the maternal gene, and I thought I was completely alone." Four years later, Vicki says she's just now getting the hang of it.
The biggest adjustment Cheryl Hines (star of into the motherhood on ABC) says she had to make when her daughter was born was to accept the loss of her old self. "Suddenly, you're responsible for this little baby 24/7. You [used to be able to say]: 'Oh, I'm on my way home. I'm going to stop at my friend's house and say hi.' You don't do that anymore, you can't, and it's sad," she says. "One of my friends was going through a bad breakup right when Catherine was born, and I physically, emotionally could not be there for her because I had a baby."
Most mothers are prepared for sacrifice when they get pregnant, but Cheryl says you don't always realize how much that sacrifice includes. "Things like when your best friend needs you, you don't realize that's going to be part of the sacrifice," she says.
One popular topic on Heather's blog is sex and how it changes when you are a mom. "It took seven months [before I had sex after giving birth]. No one had told me that it was going to take that long after what the baby did to me," Heather says. "Any guy who wants to have unprotected sex? Seven months without it. Just think about that for a minute. Let that number circulate in your head for a little bit."
Oprah show quotes ends!!
I totally agree i did not feel an instant connection and bond with Moises when he was born. I loved him of course he was in my body for 9 months, I grew him inside of me. But when he was born i was just like. Um, hi, nice to meet you. I definitely thought we would have this instant bond and I would feel differently than i actually did. I didnt want to put him down or let him out of my sight because I was scared something might happen to him. But it wasnt the lovey dovey feeling i thought i would have.
I didnt know I could be pee'd on, pooped on, and vomitted on all in a matter of 5 minutes. My son definitely introduced me to mother hood properly.
I didnt know that baby boys got lil woodies. hahaha. i was like OMG!!! i later found out its completely normal but i was also thinking I am his mother I dont want to see his woody. haha.
I completely mourned the person I used to be before I gave birth. I had to make a huge adjustment that I didnt think would have to happen. I literally cried because i lost my body(i lost my smaller frame and breastfeeding felt like i may as well still be pregnant), my freedom (not that i am not free but i cant just do whatever i want to do now), my dream car ( i had to buy a mommy car because moises' car seat and stroller didnt fit in my G6 coupe), my friends (once i became a mommy people stopped calling and inviting me out). I felt lost like I didnt know who I was anymore. Yes I was still Tamika but I was definitely not the Tamika I used to be and definitely did not know how hard it would be adjusting to the new me. I didnt think my life would be completely turned upside down once i had a baby.
I was absolutely tramatized by breastfeeding in the begining. I didnt know it would be such hard work but I am honestly glad we did it and made it through our rough patch. I thought it would come to me naturally but I literally had to work for almost 2-3 months to get it down.
Ok mommies feel free to discuss....remember i would like for this to stay a judgement freezone anything (except something that would be considered abuse or neglect) goes.