Hi. I'm 17 and my boyfriend (19) is off to the marines once he has left college in June/July.
He is so dedicated to doing this. And CANNOT wait!....obviously he said that he really doesn't want to be away from me because we spend so much time together. However, I would not want to get in the way of that.
I know I am only young and most people will probably say to move on and don't worry about it but I do not want to leave him.... I really can't see me living without him.
Anybody else in the same situation? or who can understand my situation? Just need to chat to some1 else.
Just wanting to know of any girlfriends/wives of potential marines or army guys experiences and feelings on mine or their situation?
x

My friend from high school is in the military and he just got married. His wife still lives here and he's stationed in Georgia. She's moving there soon to be with him but they were dating while he was in the military. It's possible but it's not easy. BeautifulBrownEyes said it all when she said that the military will either make or break a relationship. If you both can handle the long distance, go for it.

my dad was in the military for 21 years. i was born on an army base and we lived in different army bases up until i was about 9 and we settled where we are now. my parents married really young, but they were able to live through all the hard times of my dad going away. he's been stationed in Germany, Korea, and Kosovo. when i was a baby he was stationed in Korea for about a year, and my mom lived alone with me and my older siblings. my dad was in Kosovo when 9/11 happened, and we had a bit of a scare that he wouldn't get to come back on time.

it was hard, but if you both truly love each other and have a strong relationship, you can make it through. it's a different way to live, but it's well worth it and i am so proud of my dad! back then the best we could do to keep in touch is to send him packages and videotapes we made (and the occasional phone call), but with the technology today i bet it would be even easier to stay in touch.

back on my last base, a lot of my husband's friends had girlfriends "back home." from what i remember, the biggest issues they had were related to having social lives. my friend k's then-girlfriend (and now wife!) was a sorority girl and he had a hard time understanding why she "acted single," partied so much and was always in random pictures with guys. similarly, there was a military guy I knew whose wife was upset by how he went bar-hopping every weekend with the other guys. that's just one thing to be careful of in long distance relationships, making sure your behavior doesn't change just because your significant other isn't around.

yeah the thing is, he has more to worry about as i am going to be at home being able to go n do watever i want. Don't get me wrong, that is NOT what i will be doing, i love him and could never do that to him but he is always going to have his doubts i think no matter how strong our trust is. Whereas, i kinda know that he's not going to get up to anything seeing as though he is going to be living with a bunch of guys for god knows how long....and to be honest, he is NOT the type of guy that is going to be flicking other guys with towels in the showers haha.

Hmm I wouldn't know -- I dated one short time but its not for me I never really liked guys in the miltary not that there's something wrong but its a lifestyle I watched my mom and other ppl go through I couldn't and wouldn't do but yet it turned out he was married she was in iraq as well so that was a dumb dog I guess its up 2 u and if u can handle it n if the feelings r there go 4 it if not dun do it

Besides I freak out 2 much lol

I was dating someone who was in the air force. He was stationed in Oklahoma and I was in Ohio. 850 miles away, about 12 hour drive to see each other. It worked at first, but eventually he made a new life - and I didn't feel like I was being included. He made new friends, etc and the lack of interest in me was obvious. So in my opinion, it doesn't work well. However, this may not be true for everyone.

Oh wow! well this is the sort of thing that worries me, is that what if we just end up growing apart....But then i spose it should'nt be anything to worry about, because if that does happen, it's obviously not that strong of a relationship to last hard situations. :/

Sometimes it happens but I wouldn't let it worry you too much. Keeping in touch helps a lot too.

Yeah...Hopefully it will work with time....but we shall see ey? :) never know, we might find out it doesn't work out n in 10 years time....who knows?!

What it comes down to is how much effort each person is willing to put in :). It really is a true test to any relationship.

We had a pretty decent relationship. We had made plans for me to finish nursing school here [I had another year left] and then I was going to move down there. We saw each other twice - I paid for my trip down there both times. For the third visit, he was supposed to come here, but opted to buy a Zune instead. We got into a pretty nasty fight, and before too long, there were pictures of him and another girl on his myspace. A few weeks later, he announced she was pregnant and they were getting married. I've seen him once since that. He was up here for a funeral and we visited briefly. It's whatever now, lol. He's married and I'm engaged.

Well, the military will either make or break a relationship. I think it's a good way to find out if you guys have what it takes. You're both young, so let him do what he wants to do.

It's a hard situation to be in and very hard too, but in some ways it's very rewarding. My boyfriend--or whatever you can call him ;) is in the Army right now and we've been together for a year and out of this entire year, we've done this relationship long distance and have only spent a month altogether with each other. Sometimes it's lonely.

This is a good place to be. There are a lot of military girlfriends/wives/partners on here who offer A LOT of support.

oh i see, and how old are you both?

I'm going to be 26 next month and he just turned 25.

Oh fair enough :) so you two are fine? how do you cope then?

do you know where he's going to be stationed at yet?

Well for his training which is 32 weeks, it will be down in Lympstone. (this is in the UK by the way)
If or should I say WHEN he gets his green beret and becomes a marine...he hopes to be as close to home as possible so it will probably be either Portsmouth or Taunton. :D

oh ok.

see, if i would've been paying attention, i would've noticed that you had already said you were in the UK.

silly me. ;D

i have a, um, "friend" in the marines here in the states, and i was just curious to see if they would be stationed on the same base. haha.

well, best of luck to you two! :D

hehe aww well, nah i doubt it :) But that would have been quite interesting if they were.

Thank you so much :D And I hope your, um, 'friend' does well in everything and respect to him :)

thanks a bunch. :)

Um yeah, I can't believe I said hard twice hahaha. Ignore that :P!

Yeah i see what you are both saying :) Thank you, Just makes me wonder because I find it so hard staying away from him for a couple of days. For example, this week from tuesday-friday he has his PRMC (potential royal marines course) down at lympstone....n its hard just being away from him at the moment :( but im guessing that will pass with time...and hopefully make our relationship stronger i suppose.

We're...okay. We've had a lot of ups and downs but for the most part we're hanging in there. While he was overseas in Afghanistan we relied A LOT on emails and some phone calls--actually these days we rely A LOT on phone calls ;-D. He's in California now so it makes it a bit easier. Long distance is hard so no lying there, but if two people are committed then it can be done :).

How long have you two been together?