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29 Apr 2009, 17:33
Pamela
Post Count: 24
Ok, so i'm not going to lie. I weigh a lot.

I'm a size 22, and have been for a number of years. At least that means I'm not getting any bigger, right?

Lately i have been looking for some kind of support network for people who are quite overweight.

Lets be clear right now. I'm not glamourising being larger, i just think there's alot of people out there that could benefit with some kind of thread to support each other who are a bit overweight, where we can talk about our negative and positive experiences.

I've been supported so much by this site, and would love to be able to support other people in every way i can, and the fact that i am overweight has always damaged my confidence and has made me feel quite bad in low times. So i'm sure there are other people out there that could do with some support.
What do people think ?
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29 Apr 2009, 17:40
Chris
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I don't think it's so much as glamorizing as it is starting a culture for the overweight, which is just as bad.
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29 Apr 2009, 17:44
Krisstah
Post Count: 127
I remember when i used to be a 22.. im an 18 now and i still feel like a cow. not that 18 is much smaller but still my self esteem never went up any.
Its hard to feel confident in a world where people think you should never be allowed outside.
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29 Apr 2009, 18:00
Pamela
Post Count: 24
Krisstah, you look absolutely beautiful in your picture, and slimming from a size 22 to an 18 is a brilliant achievement and something you should really be proud of. Your's is exactly the type of attitude we need to change. You're a stunning young lady! :) I can't believe you've been made to feel that you shouldn't be allowed outside. My jaw has dropped in disbelief.

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29 Apr 2009, 17:49
Mary Magdelene
Post Count: 506
There is absolutely nothing wrong in overweight people trying to uplift and encourage each other. SOMEONE has to do it, and it's already been proven that skinny people won't.
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29 Apr 2009, 17:55
~Just the 3 of Us~
Post Count: 98
I'm a size 24 and I seem to have the opposite problem of a lot of bigger people. I always think that I look good, until I see a reflection or picture of myself. Then I remember that I don't look how I feel. So, I need to work on that myself.
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29 Apr 2009, 18:03
Pamela
Post Count: 24
You might have some form of body dysmorphia there, where you view yourself differently to how others perceive you. How has having a baby changed your body and the way you feel about it?
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29 Apr 2009, 18:12
~Just the 3 of Us~
Post Count: 98
I've always felt this way and I've been a big girls since the end of high school, beginning of college. My body did not change a ton after having a baby, except to make my stomach skin a little looser, whereas I had always been firm (but still big) before.
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29 Apr 2009, 19:35
mixie
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I have nothing against bigger women. I am a size 14-16 myself (depending on the brand) but I do weigh much more than my "normal" since I stopped eating right and exercising. I have to agree with Anonymous, I don't think it's a good thing to start a culture, but if what you are looking for is support- for self esteem and to motivate each other to be healthy- then I say go for it. Being overweight is not healthy (neither is being malnourished). We live in a time when we are actually being overnourished, where our bodies over the past 4 million years of human evolution have adapted to having limited food supplies. Now we have everything we could possibly want, which is much much more than we need, at our fingertips, as well as additives and preservative and man-made oils and fats... and it's leading to a lot of health problems since our bodies have not had time to adapt. While I don't think there is anything *wrong* with being overweight, I do think that people's lives would be much better (health wise) if they were at a "normal" weight range. It's hard though! And I know I could use some motivation and support to get rid of this 40 lbs my doctor says I *need* to lose! I'd rather do it myself than be put on some crazy diet pills!
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29 Apr 2009, 19:40
kein mitleid
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Last July I was a fat ass. So I got my ass a gym membership, started eating right, and lost 80 lbs. Deal with things one way or the other.

Either you're happy being fat, and that's great, or you're not, and you have to do something about it.

I'm still pretty fat, but I'm still working on it.
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29 Apr 2009, 19:49
Azkabound
Post Count: 162
I'm in the same boat. If you don't like where you are, make steps for improvement. Sure there is that fickle and tricky line of self perception being incongruent with how things really are, but making wise choices helps out in the end. I'm a big girl. I don't feel fat all of the time, and I concern myself more with school and social than how I look. The reason why I'd want to lose weight and WHY I should is because of diabetes in the family. Plus, it's annoying to have clothing, especially pants, wear out awkwardly. You know where I'm talking about: inner thigh. Too much friction for someone not getting laid. ;D Seriously though, it's good to keep a positive outlook at the end of the day. You're living. You can always change for the better, or worse and you have the power TO make those changes.
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30 Apr 2009, 00:34
Krisstah
Post Count: 127
I'm lucky I don't have that inner thigh problem anymore. I hated it when I was in school.
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30 Apr 2009, 01:23
.Blue Bella.
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I have been at both ends of the spectrum.... underweight (eating disorder as a teen) and overweight in the last couple of years.
I discovered that my weight gain was partially due to PCOS, and that I had trouble losing weight because of that. But mostly it is because I have shit eating habits.
I am not doing anything to lose weight now, but when my baby is born (hence why I'm not actively tring to lose weight), I will do what I can to be a healthy weight. This will be difficult with PCOS, but I have to do it.

I have found since being overweight that I have less confidence in myself. I don't like what I see in the mirror. I don't like shopping for clothing. I don't feel attractive, no matter how much my partner tells me that in his eyes, I am. But it's more than that.

I feel heavy. I have aches and pains I never had before. I feel more tired. I feel unfit. These are all things that concern me more than what I don't like about my image. I genuinly don't feel HEALTHY. And this is why I want to make a change and why I want to lost about 20kg. (Though that number might increase dependant on how much more baby weight I gain). I want to be able to run around with my dogs, and in a years time - my daugther. I want to be able to have more energy. I don't want sore legs and back from carrying around the extra weight. And if I lose it, I have the potential to significantly help my PCOS, to avoid diabetes (which I'm at an increased risk at due to 1. PCOS, 2. family history, 3. weight), and to live a longer life and not have my weight impact on the life of my daughter, my partner or MYSELF.

For me its not about looking attractive (thats like a slight bonus prize). For me it's about FEELING BETTER, feeling healthy. Living longer.
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