There use to be an advice thread..Not sure where it went.
This may be long but bare with me. I really need some advice and no bashing.
I'm 20 years old married with a son who is 15 months old and another due January 28th. My husband,son and I just made a very big move in September from Alaska to Virginia. We spent tons of money on gas driveing here so we could bring all of our stuff with us. Minus most of our big things. When we got here we were to be staying with my Mom at her apartment for as long as we needed be it 2 months or 2 years. She talked to the apartment owner BEFORE we moved here about putting our names on the lease and the land lady said for her to wait until we got here and decided we were going to be staying,which was fine. But my Mom didn't get that in writeing. So we got here at the end of September and we went over to the office in November to tell her we were indeed staying and would need to stay with my Mom because jobs wernt comeing as quickly as we had liked. My husband had already found a college (ECPI college of Technology) and started going,its an 18 month program so we'd be here until atleast May 2010. We get over to the office,and all my Mom was SUPPOSED to have to do was put our names on the lease as living here and have her water bill increase....No go.
The lady said nope we aren;t allowed to live here and wanted us gone THAT NIGHT. We explained the situation and she gave us 2 weeks until the 2nd week of December we tried our hardest to get jobs and get out on our own..but no such luck. Jobs just aren't comeing we've applied everywhere and now I'm at the stage in my pregnancy where working isn't really an option. So we went over to Virginia Beach Social Service office (the last thing we ever wanted to have to do) to try and get some help to get on our feet. We didn't want a hand out we just need a hand up but because I live with my parents and am under the age of 21 they consider me a child and their dependent..even though I am married and have children of my own. I tried to explain that even though my Dad IS makeing $12,000 a month he wont help us with anything,he'd rather blow his money on alchohol,gambling,smokeing and expensive clothes and food..insted of makeing sure his Daughter and Grandchildren have a roof over their heads. While the lady had sympathy her hands were tied (I understand that) and said she was sorry but we qualify for NO STATE HELP,outside of medicaid. So we can't get food stamps,we can't get TANF,we can't get houseing assitance..NOTHING. We're completely stuck. We have to be HOMELESS (or on our own) before they will give us any of the help that we need. I have no idea what to do...as we have approx 2 weeks and then we'll have no where to live. The lady at SS said this is the worst place to get a job. And we'd move to Maryland where I'm certain things would get easier,but my husband already has $30,000 out in student loans and if he leaves school now we'd have to still pay that back and he'd have no degree to even start to make our lives better.
So I guess I'm just asking for advice from anyone whos been in a similar situation or knows anyone whos has been. I'm extreamly lost on what to do and need some guidence. Please don't think I'm one of those people just wanting to live off of the government help that is not the case we just need the help to get on our feet until my husband is done with school..
so any advice would GREATLY be appreciated. Thank you for takeing the time to read this GOD BLESS and Happy Holidays.