1. How do other parents feel when they see another person's child having a temper tantrum in a restaurant?
Is it cute, do you understand, do you not care or do you get annoyed with it?
• It depends on the age of the child & the situation. Every kid is different, as are the parents. If it's a toddler it's understandable. I get more annoyed by parents who don't try to resolve an issue than I do toward the obviously unhappy toddler. If it is a child above the toddler stage, chances are they either want something or they don't want to comply with their parents' requests/commands. Still though, a child that young is not fully at fault unlike their parent(s). I'm a believer in "time out", I will not scream at my son in public (or at home for the most part), I will never spank my child in public (again, he doesn't receive this at home either), but I will more than likely quickly remove him from where ever he is/we are standing in the store and I walk him outside to the car, or depending on where we are when he decides to throw a tantrum, sometimes I will find a clear spot against the building outside and he will sit there until he calms down, stops crying, and apologizes for his bad behavior. I can't stand it when I see an older child throwing a tantrum (for whatever reason), but even then- it annoys me more to see their parent(s) allow it to happen, period. I really all depends on the situation though.
1a - Do you feel the same way when the parent decides to ignore the child's cry for attention, at the expense of everyone else around them?
Do you think that they should be trying to control their children, or are all children just so cute that they don't need to be disciplined...
• Hell no, what kind of a mind set is that? "He's too cute, so I'm just going to let him be a little shithead. Awwww, look at him!! Let him throw his little fit! It's so golly-gosh darn adorable!!!" Um... WTF?! Parents who think like that and actually do that are in for some hard years ahead of them. Serious problems due to lack of discipline. If a child is old enough to know better, they should act accordingly. It's simple logic.
2. How would you feel if you're paying for a movie and someone brings their small child along, to the adult movie, and the child talks or cries all through it?
• I would be pretty annoyed. Personally, if it's an "adult" movie, regardless of whether the child being exposed to it can talk or communicate what is playing on the screen, it's not ok. adult films (R-rated) are for a mature crowd for a reason. If someone brought their young child, or baby to a rated-R film & the damn kid began crying or making enough noise to disrupt the movie and or those around them- making it difficult for me to watch and enjoy the movie that I payed 20$+ to see (snacks, drinks, ticket fare), I would wait approx 5 mins before saying something to the one who brought the kid. If it continued on further, I would contact a theater manager or staff member and request that they're both removed, or I would request a refund.
Do you feel like your money was wasted due to the child, or do you just sit back and feel like you're at home? Wasted? No, not "wasted".
3. When a non-parent complains about the noise level of some children in restaurants, or says something about the lack of respect for fellow customers due to the way the child is allowed to behave, does that annoy you? Or are you able to understand how it can be annoying to them, and why they are irritated.
• I understand this from both positions (we weren't born parents). Yes, this actually DOES annoy the hell out of me. Unless you are or have been a parent to a child yourself, you should stick a sock in it. You are only ignorant & inexperienced and not only do you lack knowledge of what it's like to be a parent, but also what it's like to take your child to dinner/lunch/breakfast and then have your child get a tummy ache (causing crying) or they feel excited & over-joyed to be eating somewhere other than the dinner table, surrounded by kids and people whom they've never met & don't know (and don't always feel comfortable around). Parents are responsible for their children & accountable for their behavior. Children who are of age to act appropriately in a public establishment need to be taught to act right. If they do not act right they should be removed from those places and reminded of what is expected of them while they are visiting those places. Following directions & being respectful should be an easy thing for a kid to do.
4. What do you think about some restaurants who have the "No children under 6" rule? Is it something you can agree with or understand, or is it something that offends you? It doesn't offend me, but I think it's bullshit.
4a - If you think it's offensive, would you feel the same way if you had your first available date in months, got a babysitter so you could have adult time - and had another customer's child come up to your table and disrupt your meal (which I had before) or start having a meltdown, which means that you never really had the adult time you were hoping for, but you still have to pay for the food.
• It's like this: the world doesn't revolve around any one person. If you visit a PUBLIC ESTABLISHMENT for what ever reason, you need to understand that you do not control the demographics of that establishment. There are such things like "private booths", "cabanas", "reserved tables" which are available for a reason. If a child comes up to your table in the midst of your romantic dinner and does something to annoy you, or if they're just there interupting you, I think it's safe to say that it's hardly the child's fault at all. I would be asking myself "Where in God's name is this child's gardian!" I wouldn't blame the child though, as it would be obvious to me that the parent(s) aren't doing their job very well. Parents are supposed to keep track of their child(ren). Under 10, the parents are 100% accountable and responsible. 11 years old and up- I would be expecting more from the child(ren). They should know to: 1. Avoid contact with strangers 2. Never intentionally interupt someone's conversation/dinner 3. Stay close enough to their parents/gardian so that they do not find themselves in trouble.
• • • I blame a lot of parents, more than their children for the behavior they exhibit. I hate watching a mom scream or yell at her kid(s) in public, and even more so I hate watching a parent give into a child throwing a tantrum just to shut them up. Seriously? That kid just slapped and screamed at her mother, and she walked out of the store with a candy bar/doll/ [insert child silencer toy/sugary treat here]?! Then again, I almost came COMPLETELY F*CKING UNGLUED at a grocery store once. This family of 3 walked into the store as I was walking out. The mother was on her cell phone, the youngest kid was being cute & TRYING TO HELP by pushing the cart (he was a doll) to help his mommy, and the older kid was walking next to the younger kid pushing the cart. The youngest boy was having difficulty moving the cart across the textured floor mat in front of the auto-matic doors and he stopped for a brief moment to try to correct it, the mom (still wearing her cell phone on her face) reached down & slapped the cute little boy IN THE FACE (think chin, mostly his nose, and his eye) and yelled at him for being stupid!!! OMG, the kids were so scared of her (she was a skinny tweaker mexi-barbie on crack looking kind of woman) and I felt so terrible for them!!! My entire body turned bright red & it took everything in me to walk away without handing that women her own ass!!! I wanted to curb check her!!! The ONLY reason I left it alone was due to how upset the kids were. They were so sweet & well mannered!!! Parents like that... piss me the hell off • • •