"That being said, everybody thinks their kids are special little behaved snowflakes."
I'm sure some do, but most of us with well-behaved children have well-behaved children because we know they aren't perfect, so we spend the time doing what needs to be done.
1) Interact with your child when he's awake.
2) Train for immediate obedience every day at home.
3) Be proactive, rather than reactive.
When you spend 12 hours (or however many hours a day your child is awake) a day, every day interacting with your child, you learn pretty quickly how that child thinks. It's pretty easy then, to stop poor behavior before it even starts. For example in a restaurant, you see your toddler notice the clinking sound the ice makes in the glass when you poor the water. Then you see him look at his fork. Then back at the glass. You know exactly what the plan is, so before he even has a chance to grab the fork and start his "music", you gently lay a hand on his to get his attention, and when he makes eye contact, you quietly shake your head, "no." Problem averted. Occasionally, a child will test his limits and make a grab for the fork anyway. That's when discipline comes into play. Again, you stop him before he has a chance, and take him immediately out for a little chat.
So, no. It's not that we think our children are perfect. We know they're not, and we take responsibility for them. It's not that complicated.