If this is the case, why do you stay with him? Clearly he is not making you happy. And if you genuinely think he prefers going out partying to spending time with you, surely this implies he doesn't think much of you. Don't you want someone to value you and to enjoy the time they spend with you, regardless of whether they go to parties or not? Making rules won't make him love you more. Dumping him and finding someone who genuinely cares about you and enjoys your company is more likely to make you happy.