Ok, don't get me wrong, I love sex. I am, however, one of those people whose sex drive just isn't very active, and it never has been. My boyfriend and I have been together nine years. And no, that has nothing to do with my lack of sex drive. lol Usually, we have sex a couple times a month. But I try to keep him happy with more frequent oral sex. It causes friction between us at times, but it obviously hasn't killed our relationship. We're both understanding enough to be able to work things out when it gets bad.