I guess I tend to be more on the "Screw him, he should pay" side of the fence because I've dealt with deadbeats, and I've heard every excuse in the book.
My daughter's Dad and I were so young, I was 14 and he was 16.. We had sex, unprotected, and then broke up... fast forward to a few months later, I find out I'm pregnant. As soon as I confirmed it with a DR, I told him. He claimed he wanted the baby, didn't want me to get an abortion, etc. etc.. Fast forward to a few years later, my daughter is now almost 9, the SOB owes over 10,000 in child support and hasn't seen her since 06, and has NEVER saw her on a regular basis... I wish it would've been an option for him to give up his rights legally, because now, in order for him to lose his rights I'm going to have to pay $$$$ to get an attorney to do it for me so that my Husband can adopt her. It's shitty.
It's also shitty the way the system works. It does favor women instead of men, and I can't disagree with anyone when they say that.