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What would you do?
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17 Feb 2010, 01:35
starsmaycollide
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that's awful. :( I would tell her. Even if she does not believe you, you can know you tried to protect her. As her friend, that's what you should do.
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17 Feb 2010, 04:21
Oprah Noodlemantra
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Got this off Cosmo's website.


“Your Boyfriend Is Cheating on You”
No friend wants to be the bearer of this bad news. But consider this: “Imagine how you’d feel if your boyfriend was involved with other people and you discovered your close friend was withholding that information from you,” suggests Dr. Amador. “Not only would you lose the trust you had for your partner, but now it’s also been severed with the friend.” Telling what you know is a sign of respect, adds Amador. Begin by asking her questions about her relationship. “How are you feeling about him?” “Do you sense that you can trust him?” Get her to explore her feelings and instincts. If she doesn’t already have her own suspicions, she’s bound to ask where you’re going with this. Take a deep breath and explain that you feel compelled to tell her something, even though you know it will upset her. “Be sure to explain your rationale as to why you’re sharing this piece of what’s certain to be devastating news,” says Schroeder. Be prepared: She may very well lash out at you once she hears it. If she does, remind her of your pure motives. Adds Dr. Amador, “The friendship will only be damaged if it wasn’t a strong friendship to begin with.”

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/advice/tips/difficult-conversations?click=cos_new


Personally, I'd tell her. I would be more upset with my friends if they knew and didn't tell me, whether it was cheating or emails.
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17 Feb 2010, 04:32
RealLifeComics
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I agree with this.
Mates look out for each other, even when the truth hurts.
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17 Feb 2010, 17:30
chelseaz
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I'd tell her. I'd want someone to tell me.
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17 Feb 2010, 20:45
DivaAshley
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Tell her. If it were my friend, I would tell her and risk her being mad at me for a while. Not to mention, I would want to know.
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18 Feb 2010, 00:21
- misseriin*
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I would sit her down, and tell her. It won't be easy thats for sure but you need to tell her because no one deserves to be cheated on. Shes your best friend, you need to be there and tell her. I know I'd want my best friend to tell me....
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18 Feb 2010, 13:50
& skull.
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she'll probably be mad either way. if it were me and someone had proof and not just accusations i'd be pissed at my partner. i mean i'd get a bit pissed at the friend for discovering something so shit, but ultimately the friend is trying to look out for you, and the husband is being a dick.
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19 Feb 2010, 20:49
~Just the 3 of Us~
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Is all he doing is asking for naked pictures? I hardly consider that to be cheating. Someone needs to point him to the nearest porn site or store. LOL
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19 Feb 2010, 21:41
Mary Magdelene
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He is a married man asking his wife's best friends for naked pictures of themselves. While it may not be ACTUAL cheating, he's not exactly being a faithful husband, by asking his wife's best friends for naked pictures of themselves.

And anyway, while YOU may not consider your spouse asking your girlfriends for naked pictures of themselves cheating, others do. I know I certainly would.
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21 Feb 2010, 02:50
*Forever Changing*
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LOL! I agree, my husband gets naked forwards in his texts, but usually its some fat ugly woman no one wants to look at. What an idiot that guy is...you can download millions of pictures, then its just porn not asking your wife's friend for naked pics :)
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21 Feb 2010, 04:17
& skull.
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well it may not be cheating, but it's still unfaithful and terrible that he's asking friends of his wife rather than looking at porn. looking at porn is one thing, asking friends for naked photos is a large potential for cheating considering he's betraying her and cares so little for her that he has the nerve to ask her friends.
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21 Feb 2010, 05:28
jessi bear(:
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a girl i used to be friends with (and actually babysat her son) sent a picture of her boobs to my fiance one day. i hit the roof. and flipped shit on him, even though he hadn't asked for them and didn't give her any reaction at all. if he had asked i would have considered it cheating for sure.
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21 Feb 2010, 06:29
*Forever Changing*
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I wouldnt have been pissed at him, especially if he didnt ask for it, or respond to it, I would have been upset with her if anything. IMO thats like punishing your guy for being hit on at the store, when he didnt do anything to provoke it.
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22 Feb 2010, 23:11
jessi bear(:
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yeah, but i didn't know what was going on at first. there was just this picture of her boobs in his inbox. i didn't stop to think rationally until later.
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22 Feb 2010, 23:19
*Forever Changing*
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THEN i would have been mad at him for lying by omission, but I would make sure he knew that I wasnt mad about her sending the pictuire unprovoked, but I was mad because he didnt tell me. I understand though, when the heart is involved, rationality goes out the window.
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23 Feb 2010, 02:33
jessi bear(:
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exactly. it's like the minute i saw it, i just flipped shit and didn't stop to even SEE if he had provoked it or not. my heart tends to take over for me - the thinking comes later.
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24 Feb 2010, 08:20
& skull.
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shit i'd have cracked it too. if anyone sent me any naked bits that i didn't i'd show my partner straight away because i'd be so wtf about it, then i'd delete it.
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21 Feb 2010, 16:29
Meghans Follie
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You might not consider that cheating but it IS wrong.
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19 Feb 2010, 21:43
Transit
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I would tell them and show them all text messages/evidence.
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21 Feb 2010, 02:48
*Forever Changing*
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You owe it to your friend to tell her IMO. You took an "oath" when you agreed to be her friend, which basically says you will look out for her, and help her. If she cant count on you to tell her the truth who can she count on?
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23 Feb 2010, 19:22
Photo Lounge
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some things are worth having to put up with friends getting angry with you and all that crap
at least you can least you can say "I told her, i was honest" and when she does eventually find out for herself she realise that she can and should have trusted you.
just have to approach the situation gently and with alot of sympathy. if she's you best friend i dojn't see why she wouldn't believe you though. and you have proof. unless it's you he's cheating with :-/
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23 Feb 2010, 20:06
The Ryan
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If my girlfriend was doing that to my friends, I'd NEED to know. What sort of friends wouldn't tell me what she was upto, yo!?
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