"If your husband takes control of the conversation, try writing out your feelings. He HAS to read everything before responding, ya know? And when you write things down, you can rewrite and whatnot to make sure what is on the paper is what you are trying to say." LOL. It's funny you mentioned "writing out your feelings", I do that often, and though he reads my letters, he still doesn't seem to understand or maybe he just doesn't want to listen to me. I get the feeling that by me so much as mentioning to him that I am not satisfied with or that I am concerned and unhappy about that part of our relationship, I think he sees it as "she's trying to take control, & that is a turn off", because he has to have the control or (as he has stated many times) he feels demasculated. Still, that is no excuse to ignore my feelings.
A relationship is suppose to be a 2 way street. It should be about fairness & communication, & willingness to compromise, and I am more than willing to do all of that (keep in mind, I am not saying that I am pefect in any way). I guess my next question to myself & to those who are following this thread is this: how can I get through to my husband about the things that are bothering me, without making him feel "demasculated", or without making him feel that he is losing control?
Talking to him isn't working, writing letters has not been proven to be effective, what else is there? Counseling? I highly doubt that he would ever go for that. As a matter of fact, I know that he would never so much as consider counseling.
Still, I am open to any suggestions. :)