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What's your secret?
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Nesting

06/06/2011

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Ever since I lost my pregnancy, I've been punishing myself in subtle ways. I still count how many months pregnant I would be. I walk down the baby clothing aisle and try not to cry. I have a small box of baby clothes that I've bought. My husband doesn't know. I don't know how to tell him that I'm nesting for a baby that won't come. I feel ashamed and guilty. Most of all, I feel like I deserve it.

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No one deserves a miscarriage regardless your actions or thoughts. It's not your fault and I hope that you can heal soon. Maybe you should tell him so that he can help you get through this.

[Mommy_Bunny|0 likes] [|reply]

Oh, honey. It's okay to grieve. You don't have to do it alone. But why are you punishing yourself? If this was a miscarriage and not you getting a purposeful abortion or stabbing yourself in the stomach, IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. That baby just wasn't ready to be.

[polywogStar|0 likes] [|reply]

You are perfectly normal. No reason to be shamed or guilty! I had a miscarriage before, and I remember the pain. You will get through this, just hold.on!!

[sumamenStar|0 likes] [|reply]

this is such a horrible thing to have happened, and you don't deserve it. you did nothing wrong. telling your husband, is the thing that could help you the most though, if he knows what your going through, it might help to share the burden.

[rabbit heart|0 likes] [|reply]

You're not alone. Guilt, grief, pain...it's OK to feel like this, but you need support

[Mojo Jojo|0 likes] [|reply]

I did ALL of those things too, It is perfectly normal. You need to grieve. I am certain that you didn't deserve it. No one deserves to lose their baby.

[Miss Ice FingersStar|0 likes] [|reply]

You shouldn't be ashamed or guilty for this! But I think you should tell your husband.♥
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[BellatrixStar|0 likes] [|reply]

It's definitely not your fault. *hugs* I hope you stop punishing yourself. It happened for a reason you will never know. You can always keep trying for a baby. I hope you feel better soon.

[lady burt.|0 likes] [|reply]

Its hard after a miscarriage, and the things you are doing are normal things, its called holding on.

[Mommy2Aiden|0 likes] [|reply]

That's so sad, I'm really sorry! I assume he knows about the miscarriage already? If so, you could always talk to him about how you've been feeling. I'm willing to bet he's been feeling the same way

[Poetic Justice|0 likes] [|reply]

A miscarriage is never deserved, and it's perfectly okay to grieve. In fact, they suggest women not to get pregnant right away after a miscarriage in order for the body to heal, physically and emotionally. It's never easy losing a baby, I don't know personally, but I can't imagine it being a walk in the park. A good friend of mine lost several of her children before birth, and now she has been blessed with a daughter coming very soon. This is also definitely something I would tell your husband, maybe he can help. Take care of yourself, hun. *hugs*

[Becoming Mrs. Bailey|0 likes] [|reply]

It's part of letting that little angel go. I always think about the one I lost even though it was a long time ago. My thoughts are with you. Tell your husband how you feel when you're ready. You both need to grieve together and heal.

[Momma 'n' McNizzlettStar|0 likes] [|reply]

Been there as well. It is normal, and things will get better, you may not think so, but they will.

[Ellen|0 likes] [|reply]

I know what it's like to lose a baby. I lost a daughter who was stillborn at 25 weeks, and it's still painful a year later. It's not your fault. You have to believe that. You should talk to your husband, and let him know how you are feeling, it will most likely help, and if it doesn't, talk to someone else. There are lots of people that know how you feel, and that can help you.

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