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The Dragon's Lair
by Paper Dragon

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One reason why Im still single

Well, I just happen to like to eat two. TOO! and you and I have talked about having a positive attitude....

as far as you know she might have been hit by a bus...

send it....forget it... send one to someone else....and for heavens sake...call match and tell them they suck

[ceruleandolphin]

One reason why Im still single

Well, in the first email I mentioned my timeshare because she mentioned she liked the carribbean. In the second email the food comments was an attempt to be funny regarding something we should both have in common. The rest was my frustration knowing that writing a second email was futile and I just sort put my frustration into words. I knew it would never get a reply.

[Paper Dragon]

One reason why Im still single

My coworker Cheryl (she's 26) often tells me stories about the people she meets on Plenty of Fish. She finds that the guys that send nice, short, simple messages to her easiest to talk to. A simple "hey, how's it going?" may be all that's needed.

In my experience, the you get exactly what you need when you stop actively looking for what you want. Difficult to do when it comes to dating and love, but it's always rung true for me.

[~Aiure]

One reason why Im still single

I know you're not asking for input, but can I just give you my first impressions, as if I was the recipient of these messages?

The first one is fine with the birds and cats comments, but the line about the timeshare in the Bahamas is way out of left field and you probably lost her there. I know you and know you are just sharing something you enjoy with her, but from a strange guy on Match, it comes off like you assume she will very soon be spending time there with you. It comes off as presumptuous.

In the second one, I would instinctively say all the eating talk, especially where you guess she likes to eat, COULD be perceived as you thinking she's fat---but I KNOW you would never be messaging a woman who appears overweight in a photo, so that isn't the problem most likely. The real problem is the negativity you put out about yourself. Truthfully, its an overwhelming downer. You've given her permission already to show up, eat the food, leave, and never talk to you again. You've even told her it was perfectly fine for her not to respond to your messages, so why would she, unless she's got a hang-up where she wants to "save" depressed men?

Bear in mind, I'm NO expert at the dating game, so I'm not trying to give you lessons here or critique your style. I'm just telling you how I, as a woman, would interpret the man writing these if I didn't know him. The hopelessness kind of sucks the life outta ya', and you don't seem to think you're any fun to be with, so why would she doubt that? You know yourself better than anyone.

I think you need to decide what parts of you are likable and sell those to the next prospect, and ditch the self-disrespect.

[Cloistral]

Not much changes

Glad you're back. It's been like old home week around here. I wish the intervening years had been kinder (to us all).

[Daisys Mom]

Not much changes

Yeah, kinda hard to believe isnt it. Like me I think he is the kind of guy who was looking for someone to take care of him and she was looking for someone to take care of. I know he is younger than her but I dont know how much younger. As for you and me being single, well, life sucks.

Not much changes

Hi, glad to see you here. Sorry about the medical issues, but I have to say, SO MANY PEOPLE are suffering from food allergies and sensitivities now that I don't find your experience with pasta and HFCS strange at all. Good that you've made the connection and gotten away from it.

Now, onto the issue that JUMPS out at me and stabs me in the heart---G IS REMARRIED?!?!?
Please understand, that I don't mean anything against her, but this is a very sensitive subject for me and learning this just tears me to bits! HOW? WHO? WHEN? WHERE? (All rhetorical questions, and some you've already answered) but I don't get it. WHAT AM I DOING WRONG THAT I CAN'T EVEN GET A DATE? I mean seriously, you used to describe her physicality as being just like the Michelin Man! That hasn't rendered her (and so many other women) eternally single.

Why is it like this for me?

Sorry for the melt down.

Anyway, glad you're back.


[Cloistral]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I hope you have an awesome day!!

[Tinkie]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

hey thanks for that tip, its a good one!

when you gonna update anyway?

[ceruleandolphin]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

hi paper dragon- happy birthday to you too!! i believe the best people are born on the 9th

[Tinkie]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

hey dude where you been...what you been doin?

[ceruleandolphin]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

wish there was. i speak to my boss and she is so helpful- but we rely on each other alot and i worry that when i am down i will drag her down too. no mentors and no money for assistance. we can't find people who want to teach yet alone people who want to put in the extra work- all they want to do is bare minimum and go home. i need someone who is willing to put in some time where i need it but reality is that there isn't anyone.
i need someone to help with modules but there is no one. i want to hire a full time person- we have too many casuals in our area. they aren't around for all the behind the scenes stuff. at least they reduce the teaching burden but still, there is so much more to education than the face to face delivery stuff. i need someone i can rely on and be my off sider. maybe i can approach the big boss but she is useless. anyway too mcuh whinigng from me. how are you going. you haven't "blooped" in ages

[Tinkie]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

ryn: do you know how to put pictures on bloop becasue I have tried but had no success

[Tinkie]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

RYN: I WISH i could come ovre and ski ski ski to my heart's content. it is AWESOME but i find it takes alot out of my knees- not as spry as I once was how si life treating you? you haven't updated in a while. have you got facebook?

[Tinkie]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

is it Bahamas time already? wow time goes so quickly. star trek was awesome!!!

[Tinkie]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

can I get a postcard again?? if so let me know lol..i'll leave ya our addy...

i am not sure if i wanna see the new movie or not...
as for chest pains, know all about it, they suck, and the chemical stress test they perform, well I'd rather give birth to ten babies all natural than go through that again...

and I'm with beth, pretend to be someone else!

[Carrie]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

you should have emailed her - I am hoping to see Ster trek on IMAX I am so excited - being a closet trekie myself

[Memory]

Just ignore the guy in the black robe with the scythe

oh i say fuck it and pretend to be someone else in the Bahamas.

[ceruleandolphin]

Follow up

did you capitalise the you?
to me it is a nice reply

[Memory]

Follow up

so ask if she would like to go out when you get back ...?

[ceruleandolphin]

Remember me?

i hope this pans out for you

[Memory]

Remember me?

yea especially since I was working at an alternative school for kids in trouble...

ironic huh?

[ceruleandolphin]

Remember me?

Good luck!!

[Shauna]

Remember me?

I am so proud of you!

[ceruleandolphin]

Remember me?

good luck!

[mixie]

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