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Being disabled all my life( i had a stroke at birth), I do understand the hatred of being disabled and mad at the world for being disabled. Though, there are two roads in life that you can take. 1. Feel sorry for yourself and throw pity parties and make excuses for this and that… or 2: you can take one day at a time and try to get through it the best way you can. It took me a long time, but I chose #1.

I cannot use my right side and essentially do everything one-handed. I wear a brace on my right leg and have a neurological disorder. Now, i know things are different with me because I’ve been with this disability, but it’s how you handle it.

For you, there is only so much you can take. Sadly, if he’s going to do nothing and stay the way he is, then everything for him is moot. You can’t make him do things that he doesn’t want to do. If this is the choice, you have to be kind of selfish and think about you. Do you want to live like this?

Can he get on disability?

Anyhow, this is just my two cents I’m putting in.

[Ethan James]

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My father and my ex boyfriend went for years not having a job and not trying too hard to get one because they were living comfortably with their families support.

I supported them as long as I could until I had it and I knew that if they really wanted a job they would have gotten one.

So yeah I don't think he is going to change. Look out for yourself and don't get dragged down by a loafer.

[CatarinaNotte]

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Agree. It sounds like you may have already been looking for ways out for a while now. If you want to stay or if you want to go, both are hard conversations and may ultimately lead to the same outcome.

[EmilyStillStrange]

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Oh honey. I don't mean to be crass, but it sounds like you checked out of this marriage awhile ago. Cutting the cord will be hard and you will feel bad, but I think that it may be time.

[Tam I Am]

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what about working from home? im kinda like that live in the now and have debt... im better than i was in my 20s... but its a learning curve. *hugs* welcome to bloop

[The Avon Lady]