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Drunken Spill
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Someone made a post about this on the Facebook page. I've also noticed it on Facebook itself. Bots galore! Gonna go ahead and mod the page...
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[Supersword]
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Drunken Spill
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I think I know who you're talking about and thinking about something that could have been isn't necessarily healthy, my friend. What could have been isn't going to make you happy; moving forward is the way to go. I wish I could help make it easier for you. Perhaps the change with the military help you.
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[raen]
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A change of scenery?
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All the best decisions I’ve made in life involve leaving somewhere that’s become too familiar. With your teaching qualifications, you could maybe even move abroad?
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[The Ryan ]
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A change of scenery?
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Everyone has their low points. It's pretty normal to feel the way you are feeling. But, you do need to have someone at least to do stuff with, so moving might be a good idea. Just take the time to weigh the pros and cons before you make any decisions. It's a big decision, and you don't want to rush into anything. One step at a time. You'll get there.
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[raen]
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Saving things and listening to advice
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Your brother is right. Wait for her to approach you. Although, your mishaps with social media in sending a text to the wrong person is vaguely amusing in a romantic comedy movie kind of way.
Alcohol is a depressant, so it stands to reason that it might have a negative effect to someone already in emotional unrest. Focus on you, my friend. Because if you can't love yourself, how can you love anyone else?
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[raen]
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New Year's +5 - What am I doing? - Emotion dump
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Yeah, I think you're right. I've deleted my dating apps. Now is not the time regardless. I don't think I posted that she said it wasn't me (I might have) but if not and you got that impression, too, then maybe you're right. If I could have this work out... Hopefully I'll be able to move forward without so many bad feelings.
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[Supersword]
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New Year's +5 - What am I doing? - Emotion dump
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So my first thought here is that perhaps going out and dating right away isn't the best decision you could make in this situation. Unless that's how you think you're going to heal; but being a romantic and someone in touch with their feelings, I very much doubt that. Also, her hesitation to date right now isn't about you. At all. It's about her; she needs to sort her emotional shit out in order to be ready for the real deal. Which, by the sounds of things, is you. So you need to heal, she needs to heal, and you need to be patient. In the mean time, the motivation isn't going to just magically appear. You need to literally fake it until you make it. It's a stupid cliché, but it's also a true one. Pick something you haven't done in a while, and focus on that until you feel the depression slowly slink off into whatever dark hole it came from.
And another thing; talk to the friends you know aren't going to judge you, and are just going to listen. Your brother is most definitely right. Heal before you dive back into anything.
Her friends adding you is just weird to me. It was already too quick to be introducing, but at the same time, they would know what's up and adding you as a friend on facebook is peculiar. That's all I gotta say.
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[raen]
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Today's Issue - Love, again
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Thanks for the advice, The Ryan and Raen, turns out it was--so far--the right advice. Had a brief exchange with her yesterday when she asked for a password for an etransfer I'd sent her, and a giant note I almost sent would have been the worst possible thing to have done. Now maybe she'll see me as compassionate later...
Hopeless romanticism sucks...
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[Supersword]
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Today's Issue - Love, again
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I think The Ryan is right. You should wait a few weeks, test the waters, and if she's still not in the right mindset, you have to move on. You deserve to be happy, and being the right person at the wrong time always sucks. You'll find that person.
Lol side note: Weed and apples are not new at all, but absolutely hilariously '90s. Kudos to her for bringing that back.
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[raen]
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Today's Issue - Love, again
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Leave it for a few weeks, then try one more time, and if she's still not interested? It wasn't meant to be. I hope she takes her head out of the dating game for a while, if she's not ready for it. And I hope she quits the weed if it has this effect on her. Sorry, dude.
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[The Ryan]
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