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by Garret's mom

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rough day so far

03/24/2013

Garret has been pretty good today, so far, a little pouty and keeps going off task but so far is being a willing participant in helping outside and cleaned his room when asked to. Jon, on the other hand, has been very snappy and abrupt. He didn't get much sleep last night but wanted to get outside and work while the weather was good and he always feels better after he works hard so maybe by tonight he'll be in a better mood. I, on the other hand, feel like crap. Woke up so congested I couldn't breathe through my nose and mom texted early that she ran out of cold meds and did I have any to share, so I crawled out of bed to take some to her and went back to sleep for a few hours. Took some meds and I still feel like an elephant is sitting on my head, trying to drink lots of water but I just don't have any energy at all. Promised I would go out and help in the yard and I need to be there to run interference with the boys, as I'm sure Garret will eventually do something to piss Jon off and then that will be more stress for us all and I'm so tired of being stuck in the middle of them all. I know Jon means well in being a strong taskmaster and keeping Garret accountable, but he's so harsh sometimes, kinda reminds me of my dad, but Jon does not always have the gentleness and love behind his voice that I knew my dad did. I have no doubts that he truly cares for Garret and is trying his best to help shape him into a good young man, as he's been terribly spoiled by us all his life, but I wish there was an easier way. I'm just a softie so sometimes it's really hard for me to stand by and agree with him, even though I know it's for his best. I'm trying real hard but I slack off a lot and that doesn't make a good impression or help the situation any. Anyways, off to pick up branches and help clean up the yard then later on some homework and hopefully some relaxation and to bed early to try and kick this cold or whatever it is I have.

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IS it for the best? If G has been as spoiled as you say he's been, making such an abrupt transition from one style to another could have the effect of making him even more disagreeable. There is something to be said about meeting halfway between the taskmaster and the spoiler. Firm gentleness goes a lot farther than harsh tasking.

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We haven't made it really abrut, when Jon first arrived he and I talked and we decided to go gently so it would be such a shock and we have talked with Garret extensively about what we expect of him and we know that he is capable of doing what he is told and behaving, but right now he is choosing not to, so we're really laying down the lay and it's less talk and more action. He's had a year of us gradually adding more responsibilities, of talking nice and pleading, and that didn't make much of a difference, so now we have to take another route and try something different. I will admit that Jon is much harsher than I am, but it has been good to have someone there to back me up and to step in when I'm being a pansy and should require more, since we know and he has proven that he knows how to follow directions and do what he is told. It is still trial and error, we haven't found the perfect solution but we have to try something else cause what we were doing wasn't being effective.

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Have you tried having G pick his punishment? Obviously not 100%, but like you give him two punishment choices and he can choose which one he gets. It doesn't always work for every kid, but it worked for Christopher when he was younger.

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When did he start acting like this? There's fine line between spoild and something happend or happing to him! Girl we need to chat!

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He's been this way for quite a while and I have no issue admitting that I've spoiled him terribly, I know that now, but it's going to be a long road undoing and teaching him all the stuff I should have taught him years ago and teaching him respect and disciplining like I should have been years ago. It is working slowly but of course he's rebelling a lot more than most kids would his age because he's been spoiled for so long. It's not an easy thing for me to go through, knowing that I have created this situation and knowing that I have to be strong and get this corrected or the repercussions later on might be devastating and I don't even want to go there. So, I'm doing my best to stay strong and yes, I may seem like I'm being really hard on him at times but in order to correct his behavior that I've let run wild, I'm going to have to bite my cheek and dig in and be firm, which I'm trying my best to do and Jon is standing behind me so I stay on task as much as possible.

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