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by Garret's mom

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other manly frustrations

04/11/2012

if he won't tell me what he wants or needs from me or for me to do for him, then what are some other ways of figuring it out or getting him to tell me? And no, this exactly have anything to do with sex, though it probably applies to that too. So here is the situation:

I was in the bedroom talking with him and G was in the living room doing homework and started calling for me...
he sarcastically says "The king of your castle is calling for you."
I say, "He's not the king of my castle, you are."
He says "No, I'm not"
I say "What do you mean? Why don't you think you are?"
He says "If I have to tell you then it's not worth it." ???

I know it's been some pretty rough weeks of trying to adjust and all, but now I'm really getting confused. Any ideas?

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If he doesn't tell you, you can't work on it. Relationships REQUIRE communication. They REQUIRE you to talk to someone about the issues you feel are arising. It's that whole "I'm not going to tell you because you should know" thing that women are accused of doing to men. But how can anything be fixed when no one is communicating about the problem? He has it mistaken. It's not "If I have to tell you then it's not worth it". It's "If you refuse to tell me then this isn't worth it".

[Mommy to 3+1Star|0 likes] [|reply]

yes, that's it, now I just got to figure out how to get around it. I'm assuming that it has to do with something he's told me sometime before that I haven't done, forgotten to do or somehow otherwise screwed up and I'm beating myself up and stressing out trying to figure it out. He's been horribly grumpy all day and I don't know what else to do other than confront him gently tonight and try to figure it out. I'm hoping it's not what I think it is, but I'll have to wait and see.

[Garret's mom|0 likes] [|reply]

Just tell him things have been crazy in this process of blending your family, and you are sure there are probably things he's told you or requested of you that have more than likely slipped your mind. But sometimes it takes a few times before you remember it. That doesn't mean you don't love him, it doesn't mean you don't want this relationship to work, it just means you are human and sometimes need a gentle reminder. But in order for this relationship to work, HE needs to be willing to GIVE YOU that gentle reminder when you need it, instead of telling you that if he has to tell you it isn't worth it, because that gets everyone no where very quickly. He also needs to realize that it's not all about YOU doing things to make this work, HE needs to be willing to work on HIS expectations, too. You both will have to make sacrifices and compromises, not just you.

[Mommy to 3+1Star|0 likes] [|reply]

*shrugs* the bitch side of me would of shruged and said you're right you're not the king and you aint worth it.... *rolls eyes*. perhaps you should remind him that you cant read minds any better then he can?

[Meghans FollieStar|0 likes] [|reply]

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