Things have gone horribly wrong today. Mom, who claimed to want Jon here and trust him, has said and done some things that have hurt him deeply and I'm furious. I sent off scathing email to her this morning, which I'm glad and sad about, but it was done and I couldn't take it back. She's a control freak and seems to want everything her way and that's just not gonna jive. I'm tired of bending to her will, I'm an adult and for God's sake, Jon is only a few years younger than her, there is no reason she should even think it was ok to do that. I'm not sure what the outcome will be. If it doesn't turn out good, we may be looking for somewhere to live, though we are needed here too much and I'm pretty sure that won't happen. If she would just talk about stuff instead of assuming or trying to dictate then we wouldn't have so many issues. I'm not saying I am innocent cause I'm not the best at communicating either, but she is telling people all different versions of stories and it's really causing problems. I'll keep you posted, but for now, please just pray that things work out. He's refused to even talk to her or see her for several days because he's so upset right now. If he had the money and could, he would have gotten up and taken his stuff and gone, that's how hurt he is. I don't even think she stopped to consider how he would react or if she even cared if she hurt his feelings and that's what doesn't make sense to me. It's like I don't know my mom anymore, I certainly don't trust her as much anymore and to me that is scary.
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It's amazing what clarity comes from talking. Long and short of it is there are some major misconceptions and lots of miscommunication (or none at all) and ME jumping the gun and causing a ruckus, which I'm now trying desperately to fix. Sadly, even though he knows the truth, he is still very wary. It will take him a while, hopefully not too long, to get back to where he was. But regardless, mom and I and ouma did have a long talk tonight and while the hurt is still there for some things and we don't agree on all things, we were at least able to talk through almost all of it and come out peaceable at the end. Boy, when I screw up, I really do it big. Hoping this is a lesson I never forget or something I don't have to go through again in my lifetime.
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