Matt hasn't answered the email or called, so I can only assume he hasn't seen it yet, but this is about something entirely different
so it all started with Garret getting grounded from TV for the next week or two because we bought some videos, he was throwing a fit at the store on the way home, so I told him we weren't going to watch the movies that night, later, after he was in bed, I went looking for the movies cause Jon and I wanted to watch them and I found one missing. I went into a panic, checking the receipt and yes I paid for it but I couldn't find it in the bag. Both Jon and I searched the van to make sure it hadn't fallen out and then he suggested I check Garret's bed to see if he had taken it to bed with him. I looked under his covers and didn't see anything so I decided that the guy must have left it out of the bag and was all set to go back and fight for my movie. The next morning, I took a nap and when I woke up I went into Garret's room and he was watching a movie I didn't recognize, so I asked him what it was and he told me, which was the missing movie. Then he showed me that he had hidden it around the corner behind the door so that I wouldn't be able to see it...I never would have thought to look over there since that is not where he usually puts stuff, so it was entirely deliberate. His punishment, besides being grounded from TV for a length of time, was for me to return the movies I had purchased for him at the store the day before and those that I had ordered online would be sent back...of course there were tears and drama, but after an extensive lecture and talking, I think he understood.
So now we get to the stinky part...mom...
He went over this morning to help mom start preparing for the thanksgiving dinner tomorrow. She had to run into town for some things so she sent him back and called me afterwards and started bitching about my choice of punishment. She doesn't think it's fair for me to punish him and actually flat out blamed me for causing it all because.....wait for it....I bought a movie that would tempt him, and I then told him he could not watch it, and then I left it in the living room where he could access it, and then I left him unsupervised while I took a nap, so it's all my fault that he did wrong and I am in error to correct him in this way. And on top of that, she still wants him to help her prepare stuff at her house, yet she's all upset because they want to have the TV on and she thinks it's unfair for him to not be able to watch it.....she is complaining because she thinks it's unfair for him to be punished like this and that he is not strong enough and shouldn't have to learn his lesson this way.
Needless to say I am pissed to the very limit. I have already mentioned to Garret that I am not sure it's a good idea for him to go over and help her when she gets back because I don't think it would be fair for him to not watch the TV, which they will have on, and he's so easily distracted that I know it will be a huge issue. So, I'm going to let him help unload the groceries when she gets back but then I'm going to have him come back home and she's going to have to do all the prep work herself.
She promised long ago that regardless if she didn't agree with how I was disciplining and raising my child, that she would support and not interfere...so far she hasn't been able to keep that promise and this is just another sad reminder. I'm so desperate to leave here, if I had the money right now we would pack up and leave and I wouldn't look back. I'm so sick of being stuck in the middle of her drama and of her oppressing and suppressing me, grinding me to the ground, till I don't think I'm worth anything...the tears this morning were not just of anger but of ultimate hurt...I don't want to hate my mom, I don't want to feel like this...to not trust her, but she is not making it easy in any way, shape, or form.
I need a miracle and lots and lots of patience.
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