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WTF?
by JustAnotherLostSoul

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Advice needed...

11/02/2010

As much as I hate a new work week, it is nice to be back on some sort of schedule. My weekend always seems to run together into one long day that's never ending...which causes me to have a love/hate relationship with Mondays. Haha

My Giants won the World Series! AWESOME!
I'm so freakin' proud, it's unreal.

I'm currently counting down the minutes until 11...because I'm starving and my lunch break couldn't come fast enough! The company is buying lunch because of it being election day(hope you voted!) and our deposits being dead-on for the past month. When you work in a finance company that's a major feat sometimes!

I've really been enjoying seeing all the photos people are posting (here and on Facebook)! That's partly why I love holidays, everyone posts pictures so I get to see everyone else's celebration. It's fun.

My mom heard from my brother yesterday. He called because my mom posted on my SIL's wall saying "Please show Shaun this picture of his grandpa! If he likes the company then he'll be able to see even more of them!" along with paying my SIL compliments and what-not...anyways, my SIL told my brother it "hurt her feelings" when my mom said "his grandpa" instead of just saying "Grandpa". My mom told Shaun that she phrased her comment that way because the last time she said something about "grandpa" my SIL acted as if she didn't know who my mom was talking about.
No matter what my mom said...or how she said it...does it really matter?! Is that seriously something to get your feelings hurt over?
After that my brother started telling my mom that my SIL feels as if she's being attacked and everyone is against her, blaming her for the distance in our family. How can we be attacking her and blaming her if she's not talking to anyone? And if she doesn't want to be "blamed" then she probably shouldn't be stirring up trouble! It's a no-brainer.
I've basically written the whole thing off. I'm soooo done with this whole fight. My brother is trying to make/keep the peace and I understand that but he's got to step back and let her clean up her own messes. It's hard though because I don't know what to do from here. She and my brother are still lying about how this whole thing got started, it's just one lie ontop of another. That's the only thing I'm upset about - being lied to. I'm not upset that they didn't want Patrick at their family thing I'm upset because she lied and told me it was okay that he goes then text my mom and told her she and my brother were dissapointed Patrick was going.
Then they started telling me how they accept Patrick as part of the family.
!Kiss.My.Ass!
So where do I go from here?
I know I'll never get an appology out of her, I know she'll never admit she had any part in this whole thing, and I know my brother will never admit to himself that his "wife of 9 years" is one of the most difficult, self-centered, lazy pieces of shit any of us has ever met....even if it means loosing his "sister of 24 years", he'll never admit it.
Do I sweep this whole thing under the rug (for the umpteenth time) or do I stand my ground with the knowledge that my relationship with my brother will never be the same? Not like it'd be the same anyways.
I don't know.
I'm at a loss as to what I should do.
He's worried the holidays are going to be "uncomfortable". No shit, Sherlock. I've already told my mom I can celebrate the holidays with Patrick's family (you should've seen her face) so that Shaun and my SIL can be comfortable with the strain they've put on the family. We'll see what happens.
I want this to be over, for my brother's sake.

....but I don't want to be the first one to break the silence. Even if I made the choice to do that, I have no clue what I'd say.

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Ohhh my gosh. She's one of those kind of women.
The whiny, crybaby drama queen women.

Who cares if your mom said "his grandpa" rather then "Grandpa"?
If your mom was to get technical, she could have said "Well, he technically is his grandfather, not yours by blood."

It's sad that your brother married someone like that. My cousin married a woman like that, and he's only my cousin.
I would say spend the holidays with Patrick. And don't sweep it all under the rug just yet.

But maybe ask your brother if he would want to hang out, just you and him.

<3 Sarah

[canceroustearsStar|0 likes] [|reply]

thank youu )

[Expecting#2|0 likes] [|reply]

What benefit would result from standing your ground?

From what you've said it sounds like it would drive a wedge between you and your brother and wouldn't improve your relationship with his wifey one iota.

Siblings are the longest relationship anyone usually has in life. It sounds like your relationship with your brother is important to you.

Personally, I'd ignore her behavior. I find that it's rarely a good idea to confront these kind of women. Usually any kind of calling out of this sort of behavior just gets interpreted as proof that they're right; "see? Everyone IS against me and they DO blame me! Whaaaa!!!"

Anyway, I hope that helps you think about how to proceed. Good luck! In-laws can be so difficult.

[~Tak~|0 likes] [|reply]

Well I can actually go into psych nursing straight after I graduate if I can find a facility (a clinic or psychiatric hospital) that's hiring. However, in order to really specialize I think I need to get my Masters degree.

That's a ways down the road though. For now I'd be willing to start out as an entry-level nurse and work (either in psych or in medical) while I continue to further my degree. Psychosocial aspects of care are where I shine and I am sick of educational programs that don't focus on my interests. I only get one lifetime after all.

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