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Interracial dating
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20 Mar 2009, 00:17
Acid Fairy
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Oooooh sexy olive skin.... don't get me started, it will make me so disappointed with Graeme's pasty Scottish skin (which happens to be the exact same colour as mine haha) ;D
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19 Mar 2009, 21:18
~*Shannon*~
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I love men. All men. All colors, most sizes (yes, even those rudely called "fat boys"). The only thing that matters to me in choosing a "mate" is how well he treats me, and how well he treats my kids. Everything else doesn't really matter much.
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19 Mar 2009, 22:21
~RedFraggle~
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I dated a Chinese guy in high school, but I dated him because he was cute, not because of the colour of his skin. I don't care what the colour of skin is, as long as I'm attracted to them.
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20 Mar 2009, 00:19
Acid Fairy
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OH I totally pulled a Chinese guy once, thanks for reminding me!

But then he tried to have sex with me in my friend's bathroom... and when I said no he goes, 'I thought you were fun and easy!' HAHA I totally laughed in his face.
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20 Mar 2009, 00:12
Estella
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I CAN SEE HOW THERE MIGHT BE POSSIBLE ANSWERS FOR THIS QUESTION.

LIKE, SOME PEOPLE MARRY SOMEONE FROM ANOTHER COUNTRY SO THAT THEY CAN MOVE TO THAT COUNTRY AND HAVE BETTER CHANCES IN LIFE.

PERSONALLY, IF I WERE TO DATE, AND TO DO SO FOR PURELY AESTHETIC REASONS (WHICH, AFTER ALL, MANY PEOPLE DO) I WOULD TOTALLY WANT A BLACK MAN, YO (WHICH WOULD BE INTERRACIAL DATING FOR ME BECAUSE I'M WHITE). I LIKE THE LOOK OF BLACK BODIES MORE THAN WHITE BODIES - WHITE BODIES SHOW UP EVERY LITTLE BLOTCH AND VEIN, WHEREAS BLACK BODIES LOOK SMOOTHER, AND YOU SEE THE OUTLINES OF THEM MORE CLEARLY, AND THIS IS FAR MORE AESTHETICALLY SATISFYING TO ME. ALSO, I LIKE THE TACTILE FEELING OF BLACK MEN'S SHORT AFRO HAIR. SO, FROM A SENSUAL POINT OF VIEW, IT WOULD MAKE MUCH MORE SENSE FOR ME TO DATE A BLACK MAN.

AND ALSO, IF THE BLACK MAN WAS FROM AFRICA (AS OPPOSED TO HAVING BEEN BORN AND BRED IN ENGLAND) IT WOULD MAKE MORE SENSE FROM A COMMUNICATION POINT OF VIEW, BECAUSE I FIND BLACK PEOPLE FROM AFRICA ARE MUCH EASIER TO SPEAK TO THAN TRUE-BLUE ENGLISH PEOPLE, BECAUSE THEIR CULTURE IS ONE WHERE PEOPLE SPEAK THEIR MINDS AND ARE DIRECT, AND I AM LIKE THIS TOO (THUS NOT REALLY FITTING IN WITH BRITISH CULTURE, WHERE PEOPLE ARE VERY INDIRECT). IN MY WORKPLACES, I ALWAYS HANG OUT WITH BLACK COLLEAGUES MORE THAN WHITE COLLEAGUES.

SO, THERE ARE SOME REASONS WHY PEOPLE MIGHT DELIBERATELY CHOOSE TO DATE ANOTHER RACE. OF COURSE, I AM ASEXUAL, SO I AM SPEAKING PURELY FROM A RATIONAL, ANALYTICAL AND HYPOTHETICAL POINT OF VIEW HERE.
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20 Mar 2009, 00:23
mixie
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Well I guess I didn't contextualize my concept of the question being stupid. I meant the question itself. If someone came up to me and asked, "why do you date outside your race?" I would think that person was stupid. In my personal life, a person that knows me knows "why" I date outside my race. If they don't know me, well that is a stupid question to ask a stranger! I don't claim to be colorblind. I am very aware of race being non-white myself, but I can honestly say that no, race does not play a part in my choosing of a partner, simply because it doesn't matter to me, like Lady Acid Fairy and pretty much everyone else said. I didn't mean it was a stupid forum topic, or anything as dramatic as we all may have hoped. Gods know if I have stayed out of the bloop drama for this long, I'm not trying to start in now, I just like to say my bit once in a while :P Puck, even though they have different origins, the fact they are homonyms I think it still makes that connotation, at a basic, subconscious level. At least in my head, though I won't argue my head isn't a completely normal one, especially currently taking a "social problems" course from a very activist-minded instructor hehehe.
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20 Mar 2009, 01:02
Estella
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YES, IT DEPENDS ON THE CONTEXT OF THE QUESTION. SOMEONE COULD BE ASKING, IN GENERAL TERMS, FOR VARIOUS REASONS WHY PEOPLE MIGHT CHOOSE TO DATE INTERRACIALLY. OR SOMEONE COULD BE PERSONALLY AND SPECIFICALLY ASKING SOMEONE THEY KNOW WHO HAS A PARTNER OF A DIFFERENT RACE WHY THEY CHOOSE TO DO THIS. ALTHOUGH, IF I WERE DATING SOMEONE OF A DIFFERENT RACE, I WOULDN'T BE OFFENDED BY SOMEONE ASKING ME WHY I DID IT. I'M A VERY CURIOUS PERSON MYSELF, SO I AM PERFECTLY COMFORTABLE WITH OTHER PEOPLE BEING CURIOUS. ALTHOUGH, AS WILL SAID, IT WOULD BE A HARD QUESTION TO ANSWER UNLESS THEIR RACE WAS A SPECIFIC REASON I'D CHOSEN TO DATE THEM. PERHAPS A MORE INTERESTING AND FRUITFUL QUESTION WOULD BE 'HOW DO YOU FIND THE EXPERIENCE OF DATING SOMEONE OF A DIFFERENT RACE? ARE THERE ANY SIGNIFICANT RACE-RELATED DIFFERENCES FROM DATING SOMEONE OF YOUR OWN RACE? DOES IT HAVE ANY ADVANTAGES OR DISADVANTAGES?'

AS FOR THE VARIOUS MEANINGS OF THE WORD 'RACE', POSSIBLY SOME PEOPLE DO MAKE THAT CONNECTION, BUT I HONESTLY DON'T THINK IT'S A UNIVERSAL CONNOTATION OF THE WORD. I'VE CERTAINLY NEVER MADE IT MYSELF. THERE ARE SO MANY WORDS THAT HAVE MANY UNRELATED MEANINGS IN THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE. AND EVEN IF I WERE TO MAKE A CONNECTION BETWEEN THEM, IT WOULDN'T BE THAT THERE IS A RACE BETWEEN BLACK AND WHITE PEOPLE. IF ONE'S HERITAGE IS A RACE IN ITSELF, THEN ANY COMPETITION WOULD BE INTERNAL - NOT BETWEEN BLACK AND WHITE, AS THEY ARE TWO SEPARATE RACES! BUT I TAKE THINGS VERY LITERALLY, YO! IT IS ENTIRELY POSSIBLE THAT SOME PEOPLE, INCLUDING YOURSELF, HAVE SUBTLY BEEN SEEING THE IDEA OF COMPETING IN THE USAGE OF THE WORD 'RACE' TO DESCRIBE ANCESTRY.

AND DON'T WORRY, MIXIE, YO - THIS ISN'T DRAMA. JUST A BIT OF HEALTHY DISCUSSION, YO (QUITE UNUSUAL FOR BLOOP FORUMZ, SO TREASURE IT!)! LIKE I WAS TOTALLY CURIOUS WHY YOU FOUND IT SUCH A STUPID QUESTION - BUT THEN, AS I LATER SAID, I REALISED I'D ACTUALLY MISREAD THE QUESTION.
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