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So you wanna be a Marine...
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16 Mar 2009, 02:18
Sea-Monster
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I'm fairly new here on bloop, but I've realized that a lot of women have husbands or boyfriends in the service. Currently, my boyfriend is dead set on joining the Marines, and I'm really scared. I just wanted to know how other people deal with their significant other being gone, how they deal with the fear, and everything. I know its really hard, and I'm already super nervous and he hasn't even enlisted yet. So, I guess my question is... how do other people deal with a significant other in the service and how do they cope with the long times when they're apart?
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16 Mar 2009, 02:25
Chris
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Well, it helps to know a lot of boys are coming back soon. It's a new era, where the military (once again) is nothing to be afraid of.
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16 Mar 2009, 02:29
lady burt
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one of my best friends has her man in iraq right now and he is a marine. i'm sure she wouldn't mind if i gave her bloop name to you if you wanted to talk to her.
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16 Mar 2009, 02:31
Sea-Monster
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That would be really awesome. No one I know even knows a person in the service, so its really hard for me to find someone who understands and can really give advice on it.
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16 Mar 2009, 02:33
lady burt
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awesome :] i wish i could help, but i can't. i've never had any experience with that before.
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16 Mar 2009, 02:58
Jessica [Private]
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My best friend Jeff joined the marines right after we got out of high school. He's due to come back from Iraq within the next month.
It honestly wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Granted I'm not dating him, so I can't speak for everyone. But he got quite a bit of leave to come back from Iraq quite a few times within the last year.

A mutual friend of ours enlisted at the same time, and chose to go with a different job in the Marines, and he's going on his third year in the four year enlistment, with no signs of him being sent overseas.
I think it all depends on what he's planning on doing, haha.

Although Jeff always tells me to be sure I let every potential marine know- never be a grunt. :P
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16 Mar 2009, 03:08
Sea-Monster
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I don't know what he wants to do in the Marines. I know there are different jobs, and I'd hope that he'd try to qualify for one that didn't involve him being sent over, or at the very least have him not be in incredible danger. I think there is just a lot that both he and I don't know, and we need to do a lot more research on it.

But, I'll let him know to not be a grunt. :)
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16 Mar 2009, 03:10
Jessica [Private]
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Yeah grunt just is so bad :(
I have so much respect for the people who rough it out. They're the ones that pretty much spend their four years in boot camp.

My dad's always telling my little brother to go into something with airplanes if he joins the service. Although my dad was in the marines like, 30 years ago ;D
But that's what my friend does, he's stationed in Florida, and I believe he fixes airplanes and stuff. :)

Pays well, they pay for housing for him and his wife, and they live in an excellent neighborhood.
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16 Mar 2009, 03:22
Sea-Monster
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Maybe my boyfriend should look into that. We're both only eighteen, going on nineteen this year. Still, he insists that he wants to see some action. But, I don't think he knows what he's going to get himself into should he take a position like that.
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16 Mar 2009, 03:26
Jessica [Private]
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Action? I can get him at least ten people to tell him that all you do in Iraq is walk in circles on patrol and play on laptops. ;D
I personally don't think there's anything to worry about.
If he does enlist, I'm sure boot camp will change his mind about a lot of things, meeting people who have been overseas and what not.

I also don't think you'd have to be married to live together. But don't quote me on that ;D
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16 Mar 2009, 03:36
Sea-Monster
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Thats what I'm hoping for. And, I'm sure he will change his mind about a lot of things whilst in boot camp.

He said that if he did indeed leave, that he'd propose and when he got back from boot camp that we'd get married. But, I'm going to school right now and soon to be living with my dad again. I'm sure when the time came though, we would settle down and see about help for housing. This may be a stupid question, but is the GI bill still making housing availabe for people?
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16 Mar 2009, 03:45
Jessica [Private]
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I'm not sure what exactly the GI bill does, so I wouldn't be the person to answer that ;D

I'm 99% sure that if the military stations you somewhere, they pay for your housing.
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16 Mar 2009, 05:57
That.Darn.Miranda.
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The GI bill will pay for schooling for him eventually (and under SOME circumstances the spouse/dependants). But if y'all are married, the military pays you a housing allowance or provides you a house on the military base.
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18 Mar 2009, 03:41
Meghans Follie
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If they want base housing they have to be married. Depending on what base he is assigned to and what that command decides - he may not be allowed to live off base. If he is stuck in the barracks she will be able to visit but no over nights
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18 Mar 2009, 03:57
Jessica [Private]
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Ahh, mkay thanks for clarifying :D
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16 Mar 2009, 05:56
That.Darn.Miranda.
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It depends on what he goes for.

My husband has been 3 times. His "job" is Infantry...and he's actually leaves the patrol base everyday. However, most people don't have to do that...unless they're actually infantry (and some other jobs, but not many).

So, yeah...all depends on his job.
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16 Mar 2009, 03:59
Meghans Follie
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While not a Marine wife, I am an army wife. I was raised an army brat, feel free to shoot me any questions you might have
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16 Mar 2009, 17:01
Acid Fairy
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Oh god, I would NOT be able to cope. I don't know how others do. But then again I am a worrier when it comes to things like that lol.
If it happens, good luck! There is a lot of support here on Bloop which is the nice thing about it.
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16 Mar 2009, 06:37
J♥me
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I'm in the military, and my boyfriend is as well. A little less than a month ago, I came across a website called "Lovingyou.com", it has a forum under "love talk" for military spouses and girlfriends. It's a bunch of women who are going through or have gone through the same transition you're about to endure. They're very friendly, smart women, who are willing to answer any questions you have, you can also learn how they cope. I definitely recommend going to it.
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16 Mar 2009, 15:14
Sea-Monster
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Thank you, and thanks to That.Darn.Miranda. That site, Bloop as well, is very helpful, and I'm glad that there are so many people that are willing to give advice on this.
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18 Mar 2009, 03:43
Meghans Follie
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you can also go to http://www.sgtmoms.com/home.asp
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16 Mar 2009, 17:46
That.Darn.Miranda.
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omg, thank you for posting that website. I've been on it for hours this morning. So, maybe not thank you, since I've barely cleaned the house, nor have I even remotely made it to the commissary...but ya know what I mean. Love it!
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17 Mar 2009, 02:04
J♥me
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Lol, you're welcome. I love it. It has a lot of good tips, and the women on there are fabulous :D
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27 Mar 2009, 02:08
-Raiin
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I'm sorry hunny.
I have been in your position and it is hard. At least know if your relationship makes it through him going to boot camp and what not than you guys are good to go. =)

My older brother has been in the Marines for five years and my younger brother is shipping out in July.
Makes me sad but it's what makes them happy, they are doing something good.
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27 Mar 2009, 02:08
-Raiin
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I'm sorry hunny.
I have been in your position and it is hard. At least know if your relationship makes it through him going to boot camp and what not than you guys are good to go. =)

My older brother has been in the Marines for five years and my younger brother is shipping out in July.
Makes me sad but it's what makes them happy, they are doing something good.
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