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Do you love your husband this much?
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21 Aug 2010, 18:06
*Forever Changing*
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Her husband was drugging her so that he could sneak off to have sex with one of her middle school students, but Jenny Magro still stood up for her husband in court, begging the judge to be lenient.

"[He is] a small, white man who might not be able to defend himself against other prisoners," Magro, 50, of Cincinnati, said Thursday of her husband, Salvatore Magro, 51, according to ABC News' Cincinnati affiliate, WCPO.

A former religion and social studies teacher at Our Lady of Victory in Cincinnati, Salvatore Magro subsequently was sentenced to four years in prison, a fraction of the 15-year maximum penalty for unlawful sexual conduct with a minor.

It may sound unbelievable that Magro would stick up for her cheating, child molesting husband, but her behavior is not unheard of, psychologists say, and is the hallmark of a spouse in denial.

"She still has a fantasy that things could be saved," said Marion Frank, a Philadelphia-based psychologist. "Perhaps she's terrified to be alone ... but she is in denial."

Misguided Compassion, Pathological Loyalty

In June, Magro admitted to having a long-term sexual relationship with the 15-year-old girl, a student at Rapid Run Middle School in Cincinnati, where his wife taught.

During Thursday's sentencing, he further admitted to drugging his wife in order to visit the girl and that he and the girl had exchanged wedding vows. Magro also said that he no longer loved his wife.

Magro blamed her husband's crimes on a stroke he suffered in 2009, saying that it altered his judgment.

Magro's case may be an extreme example of misguided loyalty, psychologists said, one in which the wronged spouse is completely out of touch with her own needs, the needs of others, and the reality of the situation.

"This is clearly a man who says he doesn't want to be with her and is obviously ready to harm her, and her response is that she is more concerned about his safety than that of the girl -- who she introduced to her husband," said Gail Wyatt, a clinical psychologist and director of the UCLA Sexual Health Program.

Both Wyatt and Frank felt that Magro likely has suffered past trauma and rejection in her relationships to lead her to behave in such a self-destructive manner and felt she should seek psychiatric help.

"This is a story of two misguided individuals -- the perpetrator and his wife," Wyatt said.

The saddest part, Wyatt added, is that the victim will never get the acknowledgment she deserves from Magro.

"The girl needs to hear from Magro that what her husband did was wrong," Wyatt said. "Teenagers will often blame themselves when they become the object of sexual interest for an older man. She deserves confirmation from the woman that introduced her to [Salvatore Magro] that this shouldn't have happened to her."

The girl expressed her feelings in a letter that her lawyer read to the court at the sentencing.

"It made so much sense at the time but now it makes no sense," she wrote, according to reporting from Cincinnati.com. "I feel kind of used and dirty."

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/MindMoodNews/ohio-wife-defends-child-molester-husband-court/story?id=11438592&page=2


Would you defend your husband/wife if he/she did this?
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21 Aug 2010, 19:26
.Amber.
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Eff to the no, LOL
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22 Aug 2010, 01:09
A.Classic.Disaster
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HELL NO I wouldn't defend my husband.
I'd throw a party if I didn't kill him first.

Men can be so stupid.
But...
Women can be so stupid.
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22 Aug 2010, 01:24
*Forever Changing*
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Sadly many women would defend him, even if he was doing it to her own daughter!
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22 Aug 2010, 01:51
A.Classic.Disaster
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Yeah, I know.
It's disgusting.
Like in the movie "Precious" when her mom
lets her husband molest her daughter her entire life.
Makes me want to puke or kill somebody.
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22 Aug 2010, 02:02
Lovin'MyLittles
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Nope. I'd be filing for divorce.
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23 Aug 2010, 17:09
MaMa tO 2 MiRacLeS
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Wow I went to that school for 4 years, sad sad world these days.
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21 Aug 2010, 19:10
HorrorVixen XO
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hell to the no!! i love my husband very much and we've come a long way.. but if he was doing this, i wouldn't defend him!
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21 Aug 2010, 21:03
.Blue Bella.
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Hell no! I'd serve him up on a silver platter to any prisoner that wanted a piece of his skinny white ass!
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21 Aug 2010, 21:13
Jessica [Private]
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I definitely would not defend him. I'd find some way to befriend the biggest, blackest dude in the jail and be sure he knew that skinny white man is a child molester. See how much he likes that.
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21 Aug 2010, 22:03
*Forever Changing*
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I wouldn't defend my husband either he would be dead or close to it by the time I got done with him.
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23 Aug 2010, 00:44
Opie's Old Lady
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I am right there with you!
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22 Aug 2010, 01:30
Finally Mrs. Bailey
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I definitely don't think I'd be able to defend him, and much less forgive him. I agree with the article when it says she's in denial. The guy doesn't even LOVE her anymore, he said so. I feel bad for her though. Her husband is a monster and she's stupid to support him.
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22 Aug 2010, 02:02
sunshine.
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I would not defend him at all. I would certainly not ask for them to be lenient. I would be begging they give him the max and then make for damn sure word of what he did got around the entire prison
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22 Aug 2010, 04:16
& skull.
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that's not love, that's denial. if my boyfriend did that to me i tear his face of with my teeth.
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22 Aug 2010, 07:55
Tiger.10.Baby
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Gross! I wouldn't stick up for my husband. I would turn him in and demand he be a registered sex offender. There is no excuse for a grown man to think it's okay to have sex with a minor. Disgusting!!!
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22 Aug 2010, 08:37
KerriBlue
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@New.Year.Surpise: Would he automatically have to be registered on the sex offenders list if he was charged with the crime? You wouldn't exactly have to demand - if it were be automatic?
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22 Aug 2010, 19:48
Jessica [Private]
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@Kerri: unless he's acquitted of all the charges, he's going to be on the sex offenders list. You don't have to even ask for it - its' a given.
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22 Aug 2010, 18:15
Mojo Jojo
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FUCK NO!
But then, he was abusing her and abusive relationships run totally different to healthy ones.
And if you don't consider drugging your wife abuse, then you iz cracked.
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22 Aug 2010, 20:49
mixie
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She doesn't love him, she loves some delusion, the imaginary man that she thinks he is or could be.
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23 Aug 2010, 03:47
.Blue Bella.
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Or was.
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23 Aug 2010, 04:42
mixie
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true.
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