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Is cheating ever justified?
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5 Jul 2010, 16:35
canceroustears
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If a guy's wife or girlfriend stops having sex with him for which ever reason, would that be a justified reason for him to cheat?
What would be a reason to cheat that would be considered okay with the public?
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5 Jul 2010, 17:46
Poetic Justice
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I guess 'cheating' (if it can even be called that in this situation) would be okay in a relationship where both partners agree to it. As in, they agree to see other people on the side, but still be together. Polygamists. But that raises the question of whether or not it's still considered cheating if both partners know and say that it's okay.

What if one partner is handicapped, and rendered unable to preform sexual activity? Especially in a marriage... If the other non-handicapped partner decides to still remain by their side forever, is it wrong for them to seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere? Even if they don't tell their partner about it out of consideration for his/her feelings?
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5 Jul 2010, 17:48
& skull.
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that's a good point. i probably wouldn't consider that cheating, but i don't know if i could do that to my partner. i'd feel like a bastard =/
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6 Jul 2010, 00:06
Poetic Justice
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Agreed
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5 Jul 2010, 18:07
Transit
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For better, for worse.
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5 Jul 2010, 19:17
Giggle
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Cheating is never justified, EVER!
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5 Jul 2010, 20:22
Chris
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Cheating is a middle school way of handling problems.
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5 Jul 2010, 22:47
lithium layouts.
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The moral purist in me says "No." But people here have raised interesting points (Ev and Poetic Justice). But in the general sense, no, I don't think it's ever okay. If there are problems in the relationship, talk them out with the partner first. If they can't be resolved, leave. Then you can do whatever and whomever you want. xD
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5 Jul 2010, 23:34
MumORNurse
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I have a friend who's husband told her the only way he'd ever leave the house is if she cheated on him (she wanted him to leave but he wouldn't )... silly man.... 2 hours later.. he's packing his bags.... lol but for me personally no, nothing justifies cheating.
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6 Jul 2010, 16:49
*~Loving You~*
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...no... not at all... cheat is cheat..

its NEVER be okay for cheating... PERIOD (IMO)
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7 Jul 2010, 02:06
Aubrey;
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My question is -- why is this question geared towards men? Women cheat, too, and it's not okay for them to cheat, either.
I do think though, if the issue is that one partner wants more sex than the other partner, they should try discussing it first.
If they can't discuss it, or it can't be resolved, I guess they've got to see if this is a deal-breaker. Cheating should not be necessary at all. If you're not getting what you want in the relationship, move on.
As for polyamorous relationships -- I understand cheating to be seeing/sleeping with someone outside the bounds of the relationship. If the rules of the relationship are that both of you are allowed to sleep with other people if the partner approves, then you're only breaking the rules if you sleep with someone without your partner's approval.

And this became longer than I intended. For that I apologize, and I hope I came across as clearly as I intended.
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11 Jul 2010, 16:15
canceroustears
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It was on an episode of Divorce Court, and so I just used the situation that was being talked about.
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5 Jul 2010, 16:43
Transit
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Cheating is never okay, if you value random sex over your partner, then your a scum bag, if you really need to have sex with the nearest person who stands still, then leave your partner first.
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5 Jul 2010, 17:37
Makayla
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If you want to have sex with another person besides the one you are with then at least leave your partner first. It's simple as that. I think the best thing in that situation is if your partner isn't having sex with you & you feel like you can't be with them without it then talk to them first. If it doesn't change, then leave.
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5 Jul 2010, 17:47
& skull.
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a friend of mine cheated on her boyfriend, but he was pretty abusive. she left him for the guy she cheated with not long after. he gave her the strength to get away. i think that's pretty justified, but that's the only situation i could ever deem ok. cheating is just ridiculous, just leave the person your with first if you're unhappy enough to want to roam.
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5 Jul 2010, 18:10
love♥nik
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I can see a point to what Ev said, but in most cases, I believe that if you want to be w/ someone else, then be w/ that other person. Break up w/ the person you're w/, and go fuck the other guy. I've been cheated on before and I refuse to do it to the person I'm w/. I find it a waste of time and you hurt ppl for selfish reasons.
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5 Jul 2010, 21:06
Jessica [Private]
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@Noo Noo

Thank you! It's really not that hard to tell someone 'I'm not feeling it any more, I'm sorry.' and walk away. If you're not married there's no ties whatsoever!
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5 Jul 2010, 21:22
love♥nik
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Exactly. Cheatings a waste of time and energy. Luckily Emm feels the same way I do about it so I never have to worry about it. ;)
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6 Jul 2010, 08:20
Bec💕
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haha NO.

but my ex did a good job of trying to justify it, same with my ex-inlaws. funny how i get shit on and now the only consequence he gets is paying me 28 a month in child support for THREE kids. YEP, its so fair.
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6 Jul 2010, 15:43
Chris
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@Expecting#4: 28, what?
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7 Jul 2010, 00:07
Bec💕
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Dollars.
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7 Jul 2010, 00:17
Chris
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@Expecting#4: He has to pay you, and correct me if I'm wrong, TWENTY EIGHT DOLLARS FOR THREE KIDS?
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6 Jul 2010, 12:38
davidsengel82
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No way! Cheating is wrong on sooooo many levels!
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6 Jul 2010, 21:35
kein mitleid
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I think it's okay to cheat... if you're willing to accept the consequence of being bludgeoned to death by whomever you cheat on, and have it not considered murder.
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6 Jul 2010, 23:28
The Narnian Ninja
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cheating=not okay.EVER.
most amusing(not amusing,more like,w.t.f?)case of cheating i've heard is a month after one of my exe's got married,his wife was on the rag,so he just went an did some random chick.there marriage counselor(also his pastor)told this girl it was HER fault,because she wasn't doing her 'wifely duties' ...say it with me guys 'W.T.F?'
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