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Birth Control
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19 Sep 2009, 23:08
Acid Fairy
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Well I got put on Metformin when I was 15 and I could NOT swallow pills whatsoever. I used to cut them up into quarters and take one bit at a time. I eventually managed to learn to swallow them whole. You could always give that a try.
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18 Sep 2009, 02:49
Lunar Sea
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I was on microgynon 30 for several years and it worked fine. Quite often I'd use condoms too, but not always.

Right now, I'm on abstinence.
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19 Sep 2009, 05:08
j'dore hailey&ryan
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I was on orthotri cyclin(however u spell it)
then depo(gained so much weight & moody swings galore!!)
then condoms(not a fan)
then hailey was born
then the mini pill(made me bleed in between periods)
then an IUD(paraguard, cramps for days!)
then ryan was born
& now I'm on the ring.
I personally love it b.c I'm not too good with pills. my period is only 4 days & my flow is barely there. its been like that for 2 months straight. but if u miss one month without the ring, u'll get pregnant. that never happen to me when I was taking bc pills, so I thought for sure i'd be ok with the ring. nope!! also I recently discovered I have PMDD(premenstral dysforic disortor) so I have to switch to yaz. I just hope I remember to take my pills b.c we don't want another child for at least 2-5 years.
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19 Sep 2009, 05:02
ťOliviaŤ
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I use Ortho Cyclen. I was on it when my daughter was conceived, but I was also taking an antibiotic for something shortly before, which can cause the BC to not work...hence..me being a Mommy now. (Wouldn't have it any other way though :)) lol I'm back on it now, but I'm no longer with her father, so I'm using BC AND abstinence haha Although I do want more kids.
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19 Sep 2009, 18:44
Miss
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abstinence! no scares, no worries, no babies.
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19 Sep 2009, 19:44
Acid Fairy
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No fun! ;D
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20 Sep 2009, 12:57
Miss
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if you wanna call STDs and unwanted pregnancies fun, then you're right ;) i don't need to have sex with my boyfriend to be connected to him or to have fun with him. sadly, a lot of people feel like that's the only way to have fun with your significant other and it's really hollow.
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20 Sep 2009, 13:39
Acid Fairy
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That's ridiculous! How can you say all sexual relationships end in pregnancy or STDs? Mine never have. Sure, some people are idiots. That is why you have to take precautions and know your partner's sexual history inside out.
And it's not the only way to have fun with your partner but it definitely brings you closer together in ways you can't ever imagine if you've never had sex.
You're five years younger than me, so I'm not going to say too much. I didn't lose my virginity until a month before my 18th birthday. But I'm pretty sure you will change your mind when you get a little older.
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20 Sep 2009, 21:23
Miss
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it may bring you closer together in a way, but that will just make it hurt more when you eventually break up. you never get your virginity back, so i'm deciding to make it count.

i'm pretty sure i won't change my mind, but thanks for the unwanted opinion ;)
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21 Sep 2009, 18:14
.Amber.
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You're putting a very naive perspective on sex - and relationships. I'm sorry if you believe that having sex before marriage will make you break up. You can still 'make it count' well before marriage. I had sex at 16, because I loved him. Lo and behold - we're happily married! Five years later!

I'm very supportive of those who want to wait (and can!) to have sex until after they get married. I have two friends ... one who made it, and one who did not. *Shrugs* Can be done, but it's rare - no matter how you feel about it now. At 18, my friend was very sure she was waiting ... and then lost her virginity at 19. Things change. PEOPLE .. change. But you shouldn't be so quick to assume you'll be hurt by someone when/if you have sex with them.

I myself would really rather not risk said marriage by waiting. And what I mean, by not risking ... (since I'm okay with being brutally honest) is that sex is a huge part of marriage. I'd really rather not wait, and then find out he sucks ass in bed, because some people just DO. Because then you're about to spend your whole life unsatisfied, and - personally, I'd rather take a little heartbreak, then spend mine unhappy. I just got lucky, I guess, lol.
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21 Sep 2009, 18:51
Acid Fairy
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Nicely put.
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21 Sep 2009, 20:50
Miss
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woah woah woah. last i checked, there was more to marriage than sex. i thought that a happy marriage meant being with somebody who you loved and supported and who you want to be with forever, but clearly i must be wrong!

let me tell you something. i love my boyfriend with all my heart. we're not ready to get married yet, but we will someday if things keep going as wonderfully as they are now. on the day of our wedding, i'm not going to be thinking and hoping that he's good in bed. that's just ridiculous! i'm going to be thinking about how much i adore him and how unbelievably happy i am that we belong to each other forever. i'm going to be thinking about future plans and trips and children. i'm going to be so in love, the sex will be amazing no matter how "good" either of us are! now, when you say "I'd rather take a little heartbreak, then spend mine unhappy", you're implying that you would rather be married to a man who was good in bed than a man who you loved? i'm sorry but that is SO fucked up.
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22 Sep 2009, 00:49
.Amber.
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No, you put words in my mouth. I'm not implying that I'd rather be married to a man who's good in bed, than one I loved. The two can, and usually do, go hand in hand. I'm sorry that that your naivety doesn't allow you to see that yet. Nor, did I say, that marriage was only about sex. You might not be able to see it now (seeings as how you've neither had sex, nor are you married - both major components you'd need, to understand this concept, apparently). But it IS important. That intimacy will become an important part of your marriage.

And I can tell you from experience, you might think the sex is going to be good no matter what just because you love each other .. but that is NOT always the case. Come back after you're 'happily married' but unfulfilled in the intimate part of your life because your husband can't give you an orgasm, and try and tell me that you could go the rest of your life like that just because you love him. VERY few people can do that, without cheating. I hope, for your sake if that ends up being your case, that you can. Good for you if you can. *shrugs*

I am very much in love with my husband, and he with me, but that doesn't mean that sex isn't important. Love-making is a very solid part of our foundation. My comment about 'taking a little heartbreak first' doesn't IMPLY anything. It's simply stating that ... if what you said is true (and obviously isn't, I'm proof) I'd rather take my risk of heartbreak because I had sex first and break up later, then be unsatisfied later in life in my marriage. You can't -possibly- understand the effect that sex has, since you haven't had it.

It's utterly ridiculous for you to bother trying to argue that it won't be important.

You are very right on one point. You are 17. Sex should not be a top priority for you - and I'm very glad for you that it is not. You are above most girls your age - you should be proud. At your age I was already pregnant with my first daughter. I just got lucky and we're all one big happy family. *shrugs*
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21 Sep 2009, 21:09
~RedFraggle~
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You're 17, right? Maybe you won't change your mind. Maybe you will. When I was 17 I felt the same way that you did. But my feelings changed as I got older. Not saying the same will happen to you of course.

Anyway, I have to disagree with what you said above. My first sexual partner was someone I was in love with, and yes, it broke my heart when we broke up, but I don't one bit regret the decision I took to sleep with him, because it allowed me to experience a whole new type of intimacy. It was extremely special, and wonderful, and even although we weren't right for each other in the end, I wouldn't say it meant I was more hurt (I'd have been hurt anyway). In a way it was comforting to leave the relationship having had that special experience, because the whole relationship (including the intimacy which we experienced) was such an amazing experience, and I had learned a lot about love which I will take with me in future relationships.
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22 Sep 2009, 17:34
Acid Fairy
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Ooo nicely put! You are very eloquent with words; good job!
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20 Sep 2009, 23:25
Kate.Monster
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This.

"Unwanted opinion"? How rude. You're just trying to be nice.
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20 Sep 2009, 23:26
Kate.Monster
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And by "you're" I mean Nikki
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21 Sep 2009, 01:22
Miss
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didn't sound very nice to me. it sounded pretty condescending towards my personal decision.
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21 Sep 2009, 01:27
Kate.Monster
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You were pretty condescending too, so be careful.
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21 Sep 2009, 01:30
Miss
Post Count: 239
i'm only that when when somebody does it to me first. i'm not going to stand by and let somebody belittle my choice to practice abstinence, so i didn't.
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21 Sep 2009, 16:58
Acid Fairy
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Hey hey I didn't 'belittle' it, I just said that you saying all sexual relations end in STDs or pregnancy is a little wrong!
And how can you say you won't change your mind? You're still a teenager and you have a lot of life to live (as do I!). It's a nice choice to make now and more power to you if you have no urges, but if you don't have sex until marriage, that doesn't protect the marriage from breaking up. Also, if I choose to have sex with my next boyfriend, why must we 'eventually break up'? He could be the one.
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21 Sep 2009, 20:43
Miss
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actually, no. that isn't what you "just said". let's not forget the first reply you made to me. calling my choice to practice abstinence "no fun" is indeed belittling.

and let me ask you this- did you stay with the man you lost your virginity to? THAT is my point, not that you'll break up with everyone you have sex with.

i also never said waiting would protect a marriage from breaking up. i said in my case, i choose to save it for something more special than a fling. (and no, this doesn't imply that every relationship in which sex is involved is a "fling") urges? you think i don't have them? i probably have them more than somebody who is having sex. all in all, i know my decision is going to be worth it in the end. there's really nothing that will change my mind.
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21 Sep 2009, 21:05
Acid Fairy
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I'm sorry, but you're amusing.

If you want to make me out to be the bad guy, whatever.

And gosh no why would I want to stay with him? First of all he lives in Turkey, secondly, it was a fling, and third - I was 17! Waaaay too young to be in a serious relationship in my opinion. And I do not regret it for one second. It gave me confidence in my sexuality and in my body, and surely that can only ever be a good thing.

I do wonder why you are so uptight about this. I said it was 'no fun ;D ' That smiley face indicates that I was being silly but if you don't understand jokes then that's not my problem.

And how about you saying all sex ends in STDs and pregnancy? Is that not belittling to people who have different beliefs about sex to you? Don't give it if you can't take it.
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22 Sep 2009, 00:00
Miss
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right back at you ;)
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22 Sep 2009, 00:09
Acid Fairy
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So you agree? Good!
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