Theme: What would you do if you found out a friend was having an affair? Theme posted by A KH Friend. Shout out where shout out's due.
I've actually been in this exact situation before, and I stand by exactly what I did. My buddy sort of acted like he felt bad, but the way he came about telling me was almost braggish. The girl he was seeing was well-liked by our circle of friends, and he went off about this other girl he smashed, but then felt bad about it afterward. I'm not sure if he was trying to confess to us because he felt bad, and tried to cover it up by trying to sound cool or what. He talked to him for a long time about how we felt. This really wasn't a cool thing to do, and that only shitty people react like this. We all tried to be as supportive as we could, and we never yelled at him or called him any names, but we gave him a really clear opportunity to tell her, because that was the right thing to do, and we would be waiting for him with open arms as long as he did the right thing.
Well, he ended up doing the right thing, and he told her exactly what happened. It's not surprising that she immediately broke up with him. She decided not to move forward with friendships with any of us, and I don't blame her for that. It was a shame though because she was really cool, and didn't deserve the pain she went through.
This was several years ago. I'm still friends with the guy to this day (sort of). He ended up with a girl he's currently engaged to. I've met her once, but never established a friendship with her.
People aren't perfect, and they're judged by how they handle the wrong decisions they make in their lives, and how they go about learning the lessons they need to learn. I just hope that he did use it as a lesson, and never tried any of that BS again in the future. I'm also glad he had a group of friends around him that held him to task, instead of enabling this behavior, albeit in a healthy and mature way.